I didn't want any flower girls in my wedding party. I am inviting my niece, who is 10, to the wedding. My FI wants to have a flower girl. And now he is mad that I didn't want his niece to be in the wedding party. She is 10 and would be a Jr. bridesmaid if she were in the wedding party, as she is too old to be a flower girl. I really didn't want either. I just feel like wedding parties are not meant for little kids, as I am sure people will be drinking in the limo, and the child will probably get an earful of inappropriate things. My personal belief is that flower girls are a little showy, and it just is a ridiculous buildup to the bride. I am all for anyone who wants a flower girl, but I have never understood flower girls. Do I just cave, and have his niece in the wedding party. Or is it my side of the wedding party, and I can have who I like in it, and not ask certain people to be in it? I really don't think his niece will care if she is in it, or not. But I just don't see what the big deal is. Please let me know, would you have a flower girl, or if you didn't really want one, would you go with your desire.