Save the date etiquette

fallbride57

Two of my high school girlfriends live together as roommates, and I am inviting them both (plus a guest for each) to my wedding.  I plan on sending them each a separate formal invitation, but is it okay to send one save the date?  I am getting save the date magnets made so I figure they share a fridge and only need one.  Also how would I address the envelope for the save the date… do I include “plus guest” on the envelope?

 

Thank you!

Maggie0829

I would just send them both a STD

Also, if you are giving them the option of choosing a guest rather then including their SO (if they have one) then I would leave that off the STD for now.  You never know what may happen between now and your wedding and you may have to make cuts in the guest list and once you invite you can't take it back.  But if they have a SO then make sure to include the SO's name on the STD invite.

photokitty

I agree with Maggie, but I think it would be fine to just send them one STD if for some reason it makes life a lot easier. STDs are informal, so you could address one per household. But if you have an extra one, it would be nice to send them each one.

ashleyep

I planned to do one STD per household (how many fridges do you have?!) but some of my female cousins actually were bummed out that they didn't get their own magnet - so I ended up giving them their own at Christmas.

Because the way a STD is addressed doesn't denote who is invited the way an invitation does, I just put the names of whomever lived in the household that I sent it to. If a couple lived together I put both their names, otherwise I didn't put their SO's name.

Jen4948

You can be less formal with STDs than you need to with invitations.

For example, you can send one STD to the entire household, and if someone's relationship status is shaky or unknown, you can send one STD to the one you are closer to without sending one to their partner, although when you send invitations you would have to invite both of the couple.

vt&dt

I'd send them each one - STDs and postage aren't expensive.  And Maggie's right on - if they're not in relationships now, you can just address the STD to them, and then decide on the +1 or add their SO if they are in one when the invites go out.