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jenna8984
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Spouse tattoo- the kiss of death?
Happened to see online today that Kaley Cuoco's (from the Big Bang Theory) husband of 2 weeks got her name and wedding date tattooed on his forearm. They've only been dating for 3 months for cryin out loud.
Do you have a spousal tattoo? Would you ever get one?
I love tattoos, I have 5 and a sleeve. I plan to get them for my future children so I think I'd be ok with getting a spousal one around the 10 year marriage mark. By that point I think it's pretty clear whether this is lasting forever or not lol
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Re: Spouse tattoo- the kiss of death?
FI and I have a fair number of tattoos between us and we agreed that we will (most likely) never get spouse tattoos. The divorce issue aside, if one of us dies, the other will always have that tattoo and it could potentially make moving on harder and be off-putting to a future SO. His sister's ex wife wanted to get tattooed wedding bands and FSIL put her foot down on that (luckily, since they are now divorced and her ex wife is remarrying a man).
Now tattoos for your children, I'm all for that. FI's mom has full sleeves (tiniest, cutest woman you'd ever meet, covered in tattoos and rides a Harley) and she has FI's name on one forearm and FSIL's name on the other forearm, all surrounded by pretty flowers.
I wish everyone the best of luck, but I don't think it is a good idea. And it's not for me. If I'm going to get a tattoo it will be something that has significance individually to me.
"Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."
He's always worn his wedding ring on a chain around his neck.
Just an idea for those who mentioned not being able to wear them.
I don't think I'd get a name tattoo'd, but I'd probably get something meaningful.
I have other tattoos, as does Fi (although he's mentioned that he wouldn't get one, and I'm fine with that).
Nobody expects to get divorced, otherwise they wouldn't be getting married in the first place. So, no matter how in love you are or how strongly you think that this is the marriage that will last, there will always be that risk. Every person who has ever tattooed a name, thought the relationship was permanent, but many of them didn't work out that way. And it can be a pretty devastating, permanent reminder if it doesn't work.
FI and I both have parents with 40+ year marriages and believe we were taught the tools to work through anything and make it last. We talked about tattoo rings since he also can't wear ring to work (electrician & welder), but decided against it. For now, my FI just keeps his ring in his wallet, so it's always with him. We are looking into getting a ring that may be more suitable to his career that he could wear more often, like ceramic or carbon fiber, but he still may choose to not wear it.
I love the concept of the permanent symbol of commitment, but it is always a risk. And like PP said, even if you don't break up, spouse could pass away or something too. Then future relationships would have to look at the name or symbol of your past love.