So my FI told his friend's step daughter, who is 17, she could be our flower girl. He didn't tell me until last night. After we had the discussion weeks ago that we wouldn't have a flower girl because neither of us has any young female children in the family. I haven't even met this child. His nephew, who will be 1 1/2 years old when we get married, is our ring bearer. I'm frustrated and irritated, there is no real way to fix this since he has already asked her. So I guess I have to just deal with it, but man am I pissed that it never occurred to him to talk to me at all about it, first.