Today is so hard.

NavyBlue143

Today I am putting my furbaby down. He is in pain and I just can't watch him suffer. I haven't left his side in two days. I don't know how I can bear this. Of all of our pets, he is the only one who is mine. I won't have a baby anymore.

It's so unfair. He should have grown old. He should have met our children. He should live. A dog this unique, this special, shouldn't die so young. No dog should. This is the hardest thing I have ever had to do. Knowing it's the right thing is all that's keeping me sane.

How do I get through this?

firebabe6519

I'm sorry. Can I ask what's wrong with him? T&P's!

Senecaf

I'm sorry

emmyg65

I'm so sorry. Remember that you're doing the right thing, ending his suffering. Hang in there.

WinstonsGirl

NavyBlue143 said:

 How do I get through this?

You do, just knowing that it's the best for them even though it totally sucks.  Go with your FI/DH and don't worry if you're crying in the vet's office. Everyone there understands.  Plan something special to remember your pet and get yourself a treat on the way home.  

We put Winston down last summer and I randomly cried for weeks after, and I'm not a crier.  I paid to have him cremated and we're burying the ashes under a tree in our yard once the snow is gone.  I also found a hedgie ornament on Etsy of a hedge "flying" away on a balloon.  There's a banner on it with Winston on 1 side and 2013 on the other.  I think it was technically for a baby's first Christmas, but it's our reminder of him.  Plan something so you have a reminder of him so that he's always a part of your family forever

I'm sorry you have to do this.  It sucks

aurorajanette

I'm so sorry. That is a terrible feeling. FI had to put his 17 year old dog down a little over a year ago. He had a rough childhood, and felt that his dog was his only real family member. It takes a lot of time. Don't feel like you have to rush to get over the grief. FI still has grieving moments now, and he probably will for a long time. A pet becomes a part of you, and it is hard to feel like you're losing that part. Just know that it is what's best for him. You wouldn't want to continue to let him suffer.

Again, so sorry this is happening to you.

JCbride2015

I'm so, so sorry.  We've gone through this with two beloved pets now and it is terrible.

I'll say a word of advice: I don't know how they do it with dogs, but with cats there were two shots.  The first shot was regular anesthesia and the second shot was the fatal one.  The vet left us alone with Auliyah after the first shot so we could hold her while the anesthesia kicked in and she fell asleep.  I held her while she fell asleep and my mom and I talked to her, which was a really nice moment.  But the vet had said to place her on the table when we were ready to go.  For some reason I have always regretted placing her on the table instead of giving her to the vet or the vet tech.  It just really hurts that my last image of her is lying on the vet table instead of being held in someone's arms.

So I would recommend, given the choice, that do you a personal hand-off.  For some reason I just think I would have felt better about that.

And afterwards, you grieve just like you lost a family member.  Don't let anybody belittle your loss.  Pets are members of the family.

aurorajanette

JCBride2014 said:

I'm so, so sorry.  We've gone through this with two beloved pets now and it is terrible.

I'll say a word of advice: I don't know how they do it with dogs, but with cats there were two shots.  The first shot was regular anesthesia and the second shot was the fatal one.  The vet left us alone with Auliyah after the first shot so we could hold her while the anesthesia kicked in and she fell asleep.  I held her while she fell asleep and my mom and I talked to her, which was a really nice moment.  But the vet had said to place her on the table when we were ready to go.  For some reason I have always regretted placing her on the table instead of giving her to the vet or the vet tech.  It just really hurts that my last image of her is lying on the vet table instead of being held in someone's arms.

So I would recommend, given the choice, that do you a personal hand-off.  For some reason I just think I would have felt better about that.

And afterwards, you grieve just like you lost a family member.  Don't let anybody belittle your loss.  Pets are members of the family.

Sometimes they do let you hold the pet during that time. We had a cat at my facility at work. He had liver and kidney failure and we had to put him down. The vet came to us, and let me hold him and pet him through both shots. And then I had to go home early, because that was the hardest thing I've ever had to do for my job. I still get teary thinking about it, and that was two years ago, and not even my personal cat.

chibiyui

*Hugs* I'm so sorry for you.

Cookie Pusher

Big hugs and so much love to you.

jdluvr06

I'm so sorry.

NavyBlue143

He has an aggressive form of cancer. Radiation amd chemo would have bought him a few months at best, so we opted not to put him through that. He was on meds that helped greatly for a few months, but now they don't work. He just whimpers every time he moves. He's miserable and can't do the things he loves. I could keep him alive longer since he still eats and will move around occasionally, so he funxtions, but what kind of life is that?

We are having someone come to our house to put him down, so he will slip away at home surrounded by family. He's only 5. This sucks so much.

HisGirlFriday13

I am so, so sorry for your loss.

SmileDamnit

Big hugs to you, @NavyBlue143. You are being selfless in your choice by releasing him from his suffering at the expense of your own heartbreak. It'll be one of the hardest things you'll ever do, but it's the most powerful gift you can give your fur baby. I told my Brody & Skylar to keep an eye out for him at the Rainbow Bridge…he'll be in good company. 

KeptInStitches

I'm so very, very sorry.

kmmssg

I am so sorry. I have been in your shoes a few times and it always hurts deeply. You greive and somehow you move on til the time comes in your heart to bring a new furbaby into your life. We had to put kitty, Newton down a couple of years ago, he was only 2 and had kidney failure. We have his twin, Einstein.
Many hugs and warm thoughts as you go on this journey.

pinkcow13

I'm so very sorry for your loss.

NavyBlue143

Thank you everyone. He's gone and I'm doing ok. It helps knowing he isn't hurting anymore. I'm sad, but also relieved that his suffering is over.