Death comes slowly but surely to etiquette......Miss Manners

tcnoble

Makes you wonder... How many people did they run this by who said "that's a GREAT idea!!" ?!!! Might as well just sell tickets for the wedding while you're at it. Cover the bar AND the meal!! I wonder what the actual attendance will be. Ha.

Viczaesar

I have to admit, it's sort of impressive how they made a cash bar look like the lesser of two evils.  That takes a real commitment to being a trashy, classless faux host.

MobKaz

Viczaesar said:

I have to admit, it's sort of impressive how they made a cash bar look like the lesser of two evils.  That takes a real commitment to being a trashy, classless faux host.

Sad, but true.  And, at least they are transparent with their rudeness.  Their guests can make informed decisions about their attendance and responses.

AddieCake

It just goes along with this whole flabbergasting mentality of  WE WANT IT, SO WE SHALL HAVE IT. People are wanting a big, fluffy wedding, but they can't afford one. Rather than say, "Gee. We can't afford this. We'll have to scale back and do something simpler," they say, "We can't afford this, but we want it, so we'll just make someone else pay for it so we can have what we want because we've decided we deserve it."

 They don't seem to realize that putting on a wedding like this is actually more costly than they know b/c it may not cost them more money, but it certainly costs them relationships. 

MobKaz

AddieL73 said: It just goes along with this whole flabbergasting mentality of  WE WANT IT, SO WE SHALL HAVE IT. People are wanting a big, fluffy wedding, but they can't afford one. Rather than say, "Gee. We can't afford this. We'll have to scale back and do something simpler," they say, "We can't afford this, but we want it, so we'll just make someone else pay for it so we can have what we want because we've decided we deserve it."
 They don't seem to realize that putting on a wedding like this is actually more costly than they know b/c it may not cost them more money, but it certainly costs them relationships. 



That's where their mindset is different yet again.  Of course their people will love them regardless, because who wouldn't do anything and everything for the special couple.   Or they will say that guests that declined were the ones that failed in the friendship.  You cannot inform or argue with people that truly lack the ability to look beyond themselves.

misshart00

What if you just forget to pay and show up? How will they know who paid or not?

kmmssg

I so hope that bride and groom and their parents just happen to see that column.

AddieCake

kmmssg said:

I so hope that bride and groom and their parents just happen to see that column.

If they do, they'll just think it's about someone ELSE b/c THEIR friends and family would have no problem with it. 

lyndausvi

misshart00 said:

What if you just forget to pay and show up? How will they know who paid or not?

As someone who has worked in the industry.    I can't even imagine the custerfuck that would cause.  You better bet you butt they are counting adult head and the bride and groom would be responsible for the overage.

Logistically, it would be nightmare.  Can you imagine? Collecting a simple RSVP can be hard enough let alone collecting money?   And who collects the money?   No way I would send money to the couple.  For all I know the "open bar" is code for "our honeymoon".  Or the open bar is really $20 but and they want to profit $5 for each person.    If it's the venue do they setup tables before walking into the room?  You get wrist bands proofing you paid?

SO strange

hikebikebemerry

I honestly have no idea how they could think, "we don't want to do a cash bar, so we'll just charge our guest and we can have an open bar!"  I actually can't follow that logic.

I just don't get this.  At all.  It's really taking "having no class" to a whole new level.

CaliMel11

lyndausvi said:

misshart00 said:

What if you just forget to pay and show up? How will they know who paid or not?

As someone who has worked in the industry.    I can't even imagine the custerfuck that would cause.  You better bet you butt they are counting adult head and the bride and groom would be responsible for the overage.

Logistically, it would be nightmare.  Can you imagine? Collecting a simple RSVP can be hard enough let alone collecting money?   And who collects the money?   No way I would send money to the couple.  For all I know the "open bar" is code for "our honeymoon".  Or the open bar is really $20 but and they want to profit $5 for each person.    If it's the venue do they setup tables before walking into the room?  You get wrist bands proofing you paid?

SO strange

Exactly. How in the world would they even know who paid? I imagine that lots of people would just not pay and then the couple will have to pay for those people anyways or else they wouldn't have any food. That whole situation sounds awful.

MobKaz

CaliMel11 said:

lyndausvi said:

misshart00 said:

What if you just forget to pay and show up? How will they know who paid or not?

As someone who has worked in the industry.    I can't even imagine the custerfuck that would cause.  You better bet you butt they are counting adult head and the bride and groom would be responsible for the overage.

Logistically, it would be nightmare.  Can you imagine? Collecting a simple RSVP can be hard enough let alone collecting money?   And who collects the money?   No way I would send money to the couple.  For all I know the "open bar" is code for "our honeymoon".  Or the open bar is really $20 but and they want to profit $5 for each person.    If it's the venue do they setup tables before walking into the room?  You get wrist bands proofing you paid?

SO strange

Exactly. How in the world would they even know who paid? I imagine that lots of people would just not pay and then the couple will have to pay for those people anyways or else they wouldn't have any food. That whole situation sounds awful.

Perhaps the "favor" will be a hand stamp, bearing the initials of the new Mr. and Mrs.,  fashioned in their wedding colors.

manateehugger

CaliMel11 said:

lyndausvi said:

misshart00 said:

What if you just forget to pay and show up? How will they know who paid or not?

As someone who has worked in the industry.    I can't even imagine the custerfuck that would cause.  You better bet you butt they are counting adult head and the bride and groom would be responsible for the overage.

Logistically, it would be nightmare.  Can you imagine? Collecting a simple RSVP can be hard enough let alone collecting money?   And who collects the money?   No way I would send money to the couple.  For all I know the "open bar" is code for "our honeymoon".  Or the open bar is really $20 but and they want to profit $5 for each person.    If it's the venue do they setup tables before walking into the room?  You get wrist bands proofing you paid?

SO strange

Exactly. How in the world would they even know who paid? I imagine that lots of people would just not pay and then the couple will have to pay for those people anyways or else they wouldn't have any food. That whole situation sounds awful.

I bet you have to check in, pick up your escort card, and then get a wrist band.

tammym1001

PDKH said:

CaliMel11 said:

lyndausvi said:

misshart00 said:

What if you just forget to pay and show up? How will they know who paid or not?

As someone who has worked in the industry.    I can't even imagine the custerfuck that would cause.  You better bet you butt they are counting adult head and the bride and groom would be responsible for the overage.

Logistically, it would be nightmare.  Can you imagine? Collecting a simple RSVP can be hard enough let alone collecting money?   And who collects the money?   No way I would send money to the couple.  For all I know the "open bar" is code for "our honeymoon".  Or the open bar is really $20 but and they want to profit $5 for each person.    If it's the venue do they setup tables before walking into the room?  You get wrist bands proofing you paid?

SO strange

Exactly. How in the world would they even know who paid? I imagine that lots of people would just not pay and then the couple will have to pay for those people anyways or else they wouldn't have any food. That whole situation sounds awful.

I bet you have to check in, pick up your escort card, and then get a wrist band.

And I bet that the people checking you in and giving you wrist bands are their closest bestest friends who just didn't quite make the cut to be BM's, but are so honored to have a job to do at their wedding.

AzAnnie

OMG!!! What is next? Ticket scalpers standing in the parking lot of the venue selling tickets?