Rings

MollyandD

We finally found a men's wedding band that my boyfriend liked. He turned out to take much longer than me to decide what he likes. We have to order it, and it should be in the store for pick up in about two months. Our wedding will only be a few months after his ring comes in. We are wondering if he should wear it before the wedding or if he should wait. We have read both answers online. We know the groom's band is a symbol of being married, but he wants to start wearing it soon to help himself get used to having it on. He never wears rings. Thank you for any advice.

AprilH81

Unless it is a "mangagement" ring I would wait to wear it until after the wedding.

AddieCake

Molly&Domenic said:

We finally found a men's wedding band that my boyfriend liked. He turned out to take much longer than me to decide what he likes. We have to order it, and it should be in the store for pick up in about two months. Our wedding will only be a few months after his ring comes in. We are wondering if he should wear it before the wedding or if he should wait. We have read both answers online. We know the groom's band is a symbol of being married, but he wants to start wearing it soon to help himself get used to having it on. He never wears rings. Thank you for any advice.

I agree with April. Some people have just an engagement ring that doubles as their wedding ring, but that's not the case here. I think he should wait. Why does he need to get used to wearing it now as opposed to then? 

princessleia22

I feel that the wedding band should only be worn after the wedding.  But, if he wants to get used to a ring, maybe look at getting him a cheaper "engagement ring".  My FI did the typical proposal to me with the ring and everything.  But, then one day I was joking about how its kind of unfair that I need to wear to show that I'm taken but he doesn't have to.  I like the theory behind both wearing rings, but didn't really care either way.  But he decided he liked the idea and that he should get an engagement ring too... plus it helps him get adjusted to it.  He did some searching and found a tungsten ring online for $20 that he liked.  So, now he has an e-ring too.  We are getting a different wedding band for him that will be more personalized (we are thinking of getting fingerprint engraving inside them). It actually turned out to be a really good thing because we learned that his ring isn't really compatible with his job, so we are looking at other materials that would be more suited for him.  We may not have figured that out if he didn't have the e-ring and we want to make sure his permanent wedding band will be something that will work forever.  His e-ring will probably never get worn again, but it was cheap.

manateehugger

Why does he have to be used to it before the wedding? That makes no sense.

MollyandD

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MollyandD

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manateehugger

Molly&Domenic said:

Why does he have to be used to it before the wedding? That makes no sense.

Are you just looking for a reason to be snarky? He doesn't have to be used to it. He just wanted to. It's not a big deal and he isn't going to cry over not wearing the ring. Everyone else, thanks for your input. Although the idea of an engagement ring for him is cool, I think we will just wait until the wedding and he can wear the wedding band then. I was mostly curious about some traditions involving the groom's ring, so I've been researching that. I've never been married before, so I'm trying to learn all this as I go, as I'm sure most brides do. Thank you all again. If you have any links with wedding traditions, not necessarily about rings, I'm very interested in seeing them.

Holy crap, I wasn't snarky. I just don't understand the different between getting used to it before the wedding or getting used to in the days after the wedding. Did you wear your engagement ring for a few days before your fiance proposed so that you could get used to wearing it? I didn't understand your reasoning. 

It's his wedding ring; he hasn't been wedded to you yet, so I think it would be strange for him to wear a ring symbolizing marriage (not engagement) before he is married.

Maggie0829

Sorry but PDKH was not being snarky. She was asking a question because why he wants to wear it before is confusing. I agree with her that it just doesn't make sense. In the end I guess it really doesn't matter it is just weird to wear your wedding band before your wedding.

AddieCake

I didn't see any snark at all. And I think April meant "manGAGEment" ring. 

MollyandD

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Maggie0829

I'm sorry but how does one not know that a wedding ring should really not be worn prior to one being wed? It really is common sense.

MollyandD

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manateehugger

Molly&Domenic said:

I'm sorry but how does one not know that a wedding ring should really not be worn prior to one being wed? It really is common sense.

Apparently, I'm really that stupid. I saw a tv show, terrible place to gain info, and the man wore his ring before the wedding. Boy, people are mean on here.

No one is being mean here. I think we all just seem to think of a wedding ring as a social convention most people are aware of, so we are a bit confused. 

manateehugger

Sigh - you were quoted. So first, everyone can still see what you said. Second, changing the title of a thread to something like "N/A" is basically like The Knot bat signal. More people will click on it now.

If you don't want people to read this anymore, you're better off putting the original title on and letting the thread filter on down the list naturally.

AddieCake

Nobody is being mean. It's just REALLY unique to meet someone who didn't know when a wedding ring should be worn, and we're very confused. 

MollyandD

I found the answers I needed and I'm content with that. If I upset anyone, I apologize. I should never have asked my question here. I'm very sorry that I appeared so naive about wedding bands.

Thank you for the answers that were given.

chibiyui

I think you overreacted OP.

manateehugger

Molly&Domenic said:

I found the answers I needed and I'm content with that. If I upset anyone, I apologize. I should never have asked my question here. I'm very sorry that I appeared so naive about wedding bands. Thank you for the answers that were given.

Look, not knowing the answer to something is fine. I'm on TK because I don't know the answer to all sorts of wedding things. I think we are all just a bit confused since this one seems to be a basic question. I'm sorry we seemed blunt to you. 

Calling people mean and snarky because they didn't understand you reasoning, and then deleting all your posts, however, is a total overreaction. 

AddieCake

Molly, you didn't upset anyone. We really are just confused. Don't run off scared now. 

MollyandD

Don't run off scared? I found the answer I needed. Thank you. I'm so sorry I overreacted. It's done now though, so I won't be responding anymore on here. I've apologized, thanked people, and I have learned the answer to my question. That's really all I needed from the thread.
I'm not "running off" because I am so upset. I just really don't need this post anymore. I again am sorry to have overreacted. I just felt very stupid and embarrassed for not knowing an "obvious" answer. My deleting posts and overreacting was because I couldn't believe how dumb I was. It wasn't because I blame anyone else for anything.

I hope I cleared that up. Thanks for the advice and input.

Maggie0829

No one is upset. Confused? Yes. Upset? Not even close.

AddieCake

I just don't want you to think you shouldn't post here anymore b/c you got embarrassed over this one question. 

jneen101

I don't understand what "n/a" means in this context?

TKzilla

jneen101 said:

I don't understand what "n/a" means in this context?

It means the advice she got was "not actually" what she wanted to hear, and we are not "nearly as" nice as she thought we'd be because our statements were "negative and" snarky

PrettyGirlLost

Molly&Domenic said:

We finally found a men's wedding band that my boyfriend liked. He turned out to take much longer than me to decide what he likes. We have to order it, and it should be in the store for pick up in about two months. Our wedding will only be a few months after his ring comes in. We are wondering if he should wear it before the wedding or if he should wait. We have read both answers online. We know the groom's band is a symbol of being married, but he wants to start wearing it soon to help himself get used to having it on. He never wears rings. Thank you for any advice.

You wear wedding bands after you are wed.  Why the DD?