Being specific on envelope and RSVP too much?

logana1

So FI and I are paying for everything ourselves and are on a budget. Because of this we have decided not to invite anyone under 18. I know that being specific on the envelope is suppose to signify to the receiver "this is who the invite is for", but having just watch his brother get married in September and hearing from his wife how many people brought the whole family instead of just the people on the envelope, I'm worried we will have a repeat of that scenario at our wedding. Instead of having a line on the RSVP, is it ok to repeat the same names from the envelope so it causes less confusion? (I want to avoid write in's because while my mom has offered to help with questions fielded by family, she's currently battling cancer, and I want her focus on healing and being healthy) What do I do if I still get write ins?

pinkshorts27

logana1 said:

So FI and I are paying for everything ourselves and are on a budget. Because of this we have decided not to invite anyone under 18. I know that being specific on the envelope is suppose to signify to the receiver "this is who the invite is for", but having just watch his brother get married in September and hearing from his wife how many people brought the whole family instead of just the people on the envelope, I'm worried we will have a repeat of that scenario at our wedding. Instead of having a line on the RSVP, is it ok to repeat the same names from the envelope so it causes less confusion? (I want to avoid write in's because while my mom has offered to help with questions fielded by family, she's currently battling cancer, and I want her focus on healing and being healthy) What do I do if I still get write ins?

You can say "we reserved ___ seats" with some nicer wording. 

I am printing my RSVPs at a local print shop, so I individualized each one. They have check boxes for "Attending" and "Not Attending" and a row for each specific person with their full name their

                               Attending      Not Attending

Mrs. Susie Smith              o            o

Mr. Jordan Smith             o            o

With the circles being the check boxes and it looking nicer.

No matter what you decide, if you get write ins you call them up yourself and say "I'm sorry for the confusion Aunt Susie, but unfortunately we can only accommodate you and Uncle John"  If they complain, don't budge and if they threaten to not attend you can respond with "Well I'm sorry you feel that way Aunt Susie. We sure will miss you, but we understand. Have a great day!"