Songs that should never be played at a wedding

PrettyGirlLost

AddieL73 said:

Meh....I have to go a bit against the grain here. 

I get not choosing a spotlight dance song with lyrics that make you go hmmmm, but just for the regular music? Some of these are songs that are popular and many people like, regardless of the lyrics and what the song is about, etc.  Unless it has foul language that would be offensive to some, I really don't get freaking out over the lyrics or the message of the song.  

^This.  Also, I think huge Do Not Play lists a pretty ridiculous.  A few songs, fine, but like a 2 or three paged list?  Not so much.  DJs are professionals, let them do their job and choose the music.

jdluvr06

AddieL73 said:

Meh....I have to go a bit against the grain here. 

I get not choosing a spotlight dance song with lyrics that make you go hmmmm, but just for the regular music? Some of these are songs that are popular and many people like, regardless of the lyrics and what the song is about, etc.  Unless it has foul language that would be offensive to some, I really don't get freaking out over the lyrics or the message of the song.  

I don't think all songs played at a wedding should be love songs either. I started this thread because yesterday my FI and I were making our playlist (we're using itunes instead of a dj. We are doing this a bit early but we love music and will probably tweak the list many times between here and August) and we were joking about songs that shouldn't be played at any wedding. I thought it would be a fun thread. : )

PrettyGirlLost

jdluvr06 said:

AddieL73 said:

Meh....I have to go a bit against the grain here. 

I get not choosing a spotlight dance song with lyrics that make you go hmmmm, but just for the regular music? Some of these are songs that are popular and many people like, regardless of the lyrics and what the song is about, etc.  Unless it has foul language that would be offensive to some, I really don't get freaking out over the lyrics or the message of the song.  

I don't think all songs played at a wedding should be love songs either. I started this thread because yesterday my FI and I were making our playlist (we're using itunes instead of a dj. We are doing this a bit early but we love music and will probably tweak the list many times between here and August) and we were joking about songs that shouldn't be played at any wedding. I thought it would be a fun thread. : )

How many sings do you guys have so far?  Are you guys gonna take request? ;-)

HaileyDancingbear

PrettyGirlLost said:

AddieL73 said:

Meh....I have to go a bit against the grain here. 

I get not choosing a spotlight dance song with lyrics that make you go hmmmm, but just for the regular music? Some of these are songs that are popular and many people like, regardless of the lyrics and what the song is about, etc.  Unless it has foul language that would be offensive to some, I really don't get freaking out over the lyrics or the message of the song.  

^This.  Also, I think huge Do Not Play lists a pretty ridiculous.  A few songs, fine, but like a 2 or three paged list?  Not so much.  DJs are professionals, let them do their job and choose the music.

TBH I feel like I'm going to have a super long do not play list if I have a DJ, which is why I'm considering just putting together a playlist with FI (He has excellent tastes and LOVES dancing, so I feel he'll be able to help pick songs that are danceable without being atrocious) but I'm not 100% sure on how that tends to work out for people or how I'd go about doing it.  

I'm going to sound hipster when I say this, which sucks because hipsters are super lame, but I really hate the music that's really popular right now (As in the stuff you hear when you turn on the radio or the stuff that a DJ would typically put on a playlist- A lot of the stuff I like is popular, just not on the radio etc.), and so does FI.  I can't stand the radio.  I'm so sick of every song using the same four chords with the same lame beat in the background that NEVER changes.  I don't care too much what the lyrics are about, and I certainly don't need every song to be a love song (A lot of my favorite songs don't even have lyrics) but I think the lyrics in a lot of these songs just suck, regardless of how appropriate or inappropriate they are.  

CLI242009

pinkcow13 said:

Anything having to do with a group dance. So no cha-cha slide, electric slide, do the brown, macarena. Those are definitely on my do not dare play list.

Can someone explain what the bold is? I have heard of all the dances listed except this one.

I don't have anything to add, just that I agree that most people do not listen to the lyrics of the songs before they decide to play them at their weddings.

Kristen625

Like others have posted, The chicken dance, celebration, and YMCA are on the no-no list.  FI wants to play Get Low by Little Jon (my fault for involving him in an inside joke with my bff) and I keep telling him, that our grandmothers will be there and its really not a good idea.  He wants it played at the end of the night where he is sure they will be home already.  I seriously doubt that, and I'm still saying no to that song. 

CLI242009

Kristen625 said:

Like others have posted, The chicken dance, celebration, and YMCA are on the no-no list.  FI wants to play Get Low by Little Jon (my fault for involving him in an inside joke with my bff) and I keep telling him, that our grandmothers will be there and its really not a good idea.  He wants it played at the end of the night where he is sure they will be home already.  I seriously doubt that, and I'm still saying no to that song. 

I agree. You will never know who will stay late and who will end up leaving early for whatever reasons. This is also one of those "know your crowds" kind of things too. My FBIL and FSIL got married in 2012 and FI's family is more of the Frank Sinatra, Michael Buble music type where as FSIL's family is party hard to "Raise Your Glass" and "Red Solo Cup" The person who ended up passing out and needing an ambulance called was her great aunt. So from my experience it's a "know your crowd" situation when it comes to the DJ/music picking.

ahyatt87

I agree with a lot of the songs other poster's have listed. One that hasn't come up is "I touch myself" by Divinyls. I hope no one would request this, but just in case, it's going on the do not play list alongside "The Chicken Dance".

Chipmunk415

MrsLynn said:

I'm adding "What Does the Fox Say?" on my do not play list. THAT SONG IS NOT CUTE.

A friend of mine played it at her wedding in December. FI had a few glasses of wine, and started muttering to me whenever the title line was about to play "Stop it for F*cks sake"....I rather prefer his rendition, though I understand the song was designed to be funny/ridiculous and just went viral.

Chipmunk415

The Ding Dong Song by Gunther....never, ever, play it at a wedding, unless its only your group orgy/swinger friends in attendance, and you're into that.

karlipregler

MrsLynn said:

I'm adding "What Does the Fox Say?" on my do not play list. THAT SONG IS NOT CUTE.

Ohhhh god I totally agree. Thanks for reminding me of something I need to put on my do not play list!!

CaliMel11

Our DJ has us have a do not play list but it's limited to 10 songs. I think that's plenty fair.

Peaseblossom55

I think our do not play list might be longer than our do play list.  I hate so much of the popular music that is playing on the radio today.  We need to start working on our do not play and play lists

KytchynWitche

I'm not having a Do Not Play list because 1) my brother is doing our music, and he's awesome and 2) we're not having a dancing reception - so we only really need music during the "cocktail hour". BUT I am planning on asking him not to play anything that is overtly about death or breaking up - it doesn't all have to be about love, as long as it's happy-themed stuff.

Chipmunk415

@urbaneca- we're not having dancing either, but we are having conversation level music playing during our reception. We decided to go with some Big Band Swing and Piano Bar Jazz. I know swing well, but not jazz- was able to give our DJ a list of music that we absolutely wanted and we're trusting his 30+ years of experience in radio and DJ work to pull jazz for us.

pinkcow13

CLI242009 - The name of the song is "Cupid Shuffle." They played this song, along with both of the slide songs every.single.day on our cruise - same time, every day, on the main deck. 

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h24_zoqu4_Q

And can I just add - I posted this on another thread - that I TOTALLY suck at song lyrics. The song doesn't say "do the brown" it says "do the dance" LOL. So yea I have pretty much been thinking of the wrong lyrics since this summer SMH.

CLI242009

Chipmunk415 said:

The Ding Dong Song by Gunther....never, ever, play it at a wedding, unless its only your group orgy/swinger friends in attendance, and you're into that.

What the hell...?? I have never heard of this song o.O

pinkcow13 - Thanks for explaining and lol @ your goof. I think that happens to everyone at least once. I can't think of anything off the top of my head but there are a lot of songs that I misunderstood the lyrics and then later in life I'm like "Huh?? THAT'S what the song is really saying???? Oh well..." haha

jdluvr06

PrettyGirlLost said:

jdluvr06 said:

AddieL73 said:

Meh....I have to go a bit against the grain here. 

I get not choosing a spotlight dance song with lyrics that make you go hmmmm, but just for the regular music? Some of these are songs that are popular and many people like, regardless of the lyrics and what the song is about, etc.  Unless it has foul language that would be offensive to some, I really don't get freaking out over the lyrics or the message of the song.  

I don't think all songs played at a wedding should be love songs either. I started this thread because yesterday my FI and I were making our playlist (we're using itunes instead of a dj. We are doing this a bit early but we love music and will probably tweak the list many times between here and August) and we were joking about songs that shouldn't be played at any wedding. I thought it would be a fun thread. : )

How many sings do you guys have so far?  Are you guys gonna take request? ;-)

As of right now we have 50 songs. We actually did ask my mom and his parents if there was anything in particular they want to hear... We said we'd take pretty much any of their requests as long as it's not country.

cmiles89

 We're most likely doing our own playlist on an ipod, so I'm not worried. I'll just make sure to hide the ipod somewhere so no one can just go grab it and put stuff on... or I might wipe an older mp3 player and only put on it what we want to play.

I really want more classy stuff, like Sinatra and lively swing. FI loves country and stuff like "Celebration". So I'm thinking it will either be 10 vetos each then everything else is fair game. or it'll be one of those "Ok, you want YMCA? I veto Strawberry Wine then. You don't want to play any Buble? Alright, no Garth Brooks then".

MrsAitch

I think I'll just ask our DJ to please not play anything that would make our grandmothers blush. We were at a wedding a few weeks ago where the DJ played "Baby Got Back" "Window to the Wall" and a number of other explicit songs and right then and there my fiance and I decided that that would not happen at our wedding--just because they play the radio version without cursing, doesn't mean it's exactly appropriate.

Not that it really mattered to me that this other couple chose to have those songs at their wedding--their families are much more hip than ours.

Chipmunk415

CLI242009 said:

Chipmunk415 said:

The Ding Dong Song by Gunther....never, ever, play it at a wedding, unless its only your group orgy/swinger friends in attendance, and you're into that.

What the hell...?? I have never heard of this song o.O

pinkcow13 - Thanks for explaining and lol @ your goof. I think that happens to everyone at least once. I can't think of anything off the top of my head but there are a lot of songs that I misunderstood the lyrics and then later in life I'm like "Huh?? THAT'S what the song is really saying???? Oh well..." haha

It's on youtube...trust me, it's not something you want played at your wedding.

 The song is literally all about a guy getting aroused by some random chick touching his manly bits and pieces, with interjections from the chick that she's insatiable and wants him as a love toy. Guy singing the song also has creepy facial hair, especially in the close ups, considering the song.

The best known line from this horrendous attempt at music goes "oh, you touched my tra-la-la....mmm, my ding dang dong"

*Cue knotties spitting wine at their computers and laughing.

jdluvr06

Any song that has made a dose of Buckley's top ten worse songs of the year list. Not necessarily because I don't like some of them but because now whenever I hear any of the songs I think of some snarky comment the dude said about the songs.

ShallowSeas

It applies to weddings as well, but FI's band played a Father/Daughter banquet once and the song they wanted played for the father/daughter dance was Ed Sheeran's A Team. While I'm a HUGE Ed Sheeran fan and love anything and everything he does...if you listen to the lyrics of that song, SO not appropriate for a father/daughter dance or wedding. Its about a crack-addicted prostitute!!! Just because a song is slow and sounds pretty does not make it okay for a slow dance.

smalfrie19

Chipmunk415 said:

CLI242009 said:

Chipmunk415 said:

The Ding Dong Song by Gunther....never, ever, play it at a wedding, unless its only your group orgy/swinger friends in attendance, and you're into that.

What the hell...?? I have never heard of this song o.O

pinkcow13 - Thanks for explaining and lol @ your goof. I think that happens to everyone at least once. I can't think of anything off the top of my head but there are a lot of songs that I misunderstood the lyrics and then later in life I'm like "Huh?? THAT'S what the song is really saying???? Oh well..." haha

It's on youtube...trust me, it's not something you want played at your wedding.

 The song is literally all about a guy getting aroused by some random chick touching his manly bits and pieces, with interjections from the chick that she's insatiable and wants him as a love toy. Guy singing the song also has creepy facial hair, especially in the close ups, considering the song.

The best known line from this horrendous attempt at music goes "oh, you touched my tra-la-la....mmm, my ding dang dong"

*Cue knotties spitting wine at their computers and laughing.

OH MY GOD! I DO know that song....iickck.. that song should NEVER be played at a wedding!

KytchynWitche

Chipmunk415 said:

CLI242009 said:

Chipmunk415 said:

The Ding Dong Song by Gunther....never, ever, play it at a wedding, unless its only your group orgy/swinger friends in attendance, and you're into that.

What the hell...?? I have never heard of this song o.O

pinkcow13 - Thanks for explaining and lol @ your goof. I think that happens to everyone at least once. I can't think of anything off the top of my head but there are a lot of songs that I misunderstood the lyrics and then later in life I'm like "Huh?? THAT'S what the song is really saying???? Oh well..." haha

It's on youtube...trust me, it's not something you want played at your wedding.

 The song is literally all about a guy getting aroused by some random chick touching his manly bits and pieces, with interjections from the chick that she's insatiable and wants him as a love toy. Guy singing the song also has creepy facial hair, especially in the close ups, considering the song.

The best known line from this horrendous attempt at music goes "oh, you touched my tra-la-la....mmm, my ding dang dong"

*Cue knotties spitting wine at their computers and laughing.

OMG so THAT'S what that song is! It was played at literally every high school dance I ever went to. I have no idea how it got on the approved playlist at my super-uptight semi-private girls' school though...

princessleia22

pinkcow13 said:

@hlvonb, yea I think a lot of our guests probably like those songs, but ugh!!! We went on a carnival cruise this summer and every damn night they played the slide songs and do the brown. I seriously wanted to jump overboard by the end of the trip lol. I also hate when people drag me out for those dances. I'm not 100% opposed to "Shout" though since it brings back fun childhood memories, and I've had fun at weddings with that one.

Oh no! My wedding is on a Carnival Cruise Ship this summer... and we have the ships DJ for our wedding reception!  I am not a fan of those stupid group dance songs, so I may need to specifically talk to him before hand to avoid these.

thisismynickname2

Jennycolada said:

Anything by Taylor Swift.

Stuck in box.

"Everything Has Changed" is our current choice for our first dance (very love-at-first-sight) and yes, we have no shame.  

ETA: Still stuck in box.

Our DJ has a whole website where we enter in songs for various things. The company allows for 10 Must Plays, 10 Do Not Plays, and 10 Play if Possibles. You can even set your Do Not Plays to "play only if requested".  It's pretty neat!  We're taking advantage of the Do Not Play list to include Artists not to play. They have a whole list of Genres to label as "we love it, we hate it, DJ's choice".  I have to say I'm impressed with this system they created.

We're also in the camp of "play what our friends will dance to" regardless of the lyrics. I put in our system that I want clean versions when available, and the DJ seems to have good enough judgement not to play anything too scandalous in front of the elderly. 

Now I'm just getting excited! Eight more months though.