Looking for the perfect inscription

MandaLynn13

My fiance and I were freinds in school. We and had not seen or spoke to each other in over 10 years when I contacted him to set him up with one of my friends (whoese fiance had passed away a few months prior). She passed on this blind date becuase she said she saw something in my eye when I was describing him to her. He passed on this blind date because he confessed he'd always had a crush on me! Several months later I became single and he and I met again to see if we still had a friendship and well now 2 1/2 years later we are getting married!

SO i'm looking for the perfect word to describe what happend to us that I can use a the inscription on my wedding band and I'm stuck!! The word Fate just seems mean since I belive if my friends fiance had not pasessd away we'd all not be where we are today. My happiness came at the expense of someones sadness

Any suggestions are welcome! Thanks

freebread03

I don't think fate seems mean at all-you two are together for a reason.  Or why not choose something from a poem that means a lot to both of you?  or do you have special nicknames for each other or sayings between just the two of you?

I had to read your post several times since I just couldn't get past you saying you tried to hook your friend up only a few months after her fiance passed away...that seems really soon.

JCbride2015

Personally, I think if you want something engraved on the band, it should be because that word or phrase jumps out at you and seems so obvious that it needs to be there.  If you need to search around for it, maybe just don't engrave anything.

Do you and Fi have special nicknames for each other, or some word specific to you guys that you would use to describe how you got together?  Is there an inside joke between the two of you regarding your old school?

You could also try: always, forever, both of your initials, the wedding date, the date you met 10 years ago, the date you got together recently-- or both of those dates if they'll fit.

wrigleyville

Um, yeah. I got kind of squicked-out over that. I wouldn't even try to hook a friend up with someone four months after a breakup, let alone a death. Holy cats.

HisGirlFriday13

Passing over the circumstances -- I'm with @wrigleyville that four months after a death is too soon for me -- the two words that came to mind for me would be 'kismet' and 'serendipity.'

OliveOilsMom

MandaLynn13 said:

My fiance and I were freinds in school. We and had not seen or spoke to each other in over 10 years when I contacted him to set him up with one of my friends (whoese fiance had passed away a few months prior). She passed on this blind date becuase she said she saw something in my eye when I was describing him to her. He passed on this blind date because he confessed he'd always had a crush on me! Several months later I became single and he and I met again to see if we still had a friendship and well now 2 1/2 years later we are getting married!

SO i'm looking for the perfect word to describe what happend to us that I can use a the inscription on my wedding band and I'm stuck!! The word Fate just seems mean since I belive if my friends fiance had not pasessd away we'd all not be where we are today. My happiness came at the expense of someones sadness

Any suggestions are welcome! Thanks

You don't have to get your rings engraved.  H & I don't have ours engraved.  I also find it odd about trying to set up anyone else on a blind date when their FI just passed away a few months prior.

freebread03

wrigleyville said:

Um, yeah. I got kind of squicked-out over that. I wouldn't even try to hook a friend up with someone four months after a breakup, let alone a death. Holy cats.

"a few" is two to three, max, in my book.  Four is still "a few" I guess in terms of death, but still.  Four is a generous assumption-you're being nicer than I thought in my head!

wrigleyville

I also like "serendipity". You should watch the movie if you haven't already.

Teddy917

How about "Two roads converge again"

HaileyDancingbear

If you want a huge list of options, find a thesaurus online and look up the closest words you can think of to describe your situation.  Maybe you'll find something. That's what I do when I'm in a jam and can't quite find the perfect word.  

Although I also agree with PPs that if no single word is really important enough to you that it stands out to you and you just think "Yes this word is perfect!" you probably shouldn't get the engraving.  

soverynicole

We ended up picking a short quote from our First Dance song. Would that work, by chance?

climbingsingle

I don't really think this is something internet strangers can answer for you. Its like the "What should I get my FI/BMs/etc. for a gift?" We don't know those people or anything about them. How would we be expected to help you select a personal gift?

Same goes for a ring inscription. My advice is to pick something that is meaningful to you. If you can't think of anything, don't get the rings engraved. 

Also, I can't imagine being ready to date only 4 months after my FI passed. Holy jeez. 

Inkdancer

The only thing engraved in my ring is the maker's mark. Don't engrave anything until something specific moves you... and if that's nothing, that's okay!

Don't forget that you'll be wearing this ring every day, and will likely never see what's written inside.

MandaLynn13

MandaLynn13 said:

My fiance and I were freinds in school. We and had not seen or spoke to each other in over 10 years when I contacted him to set him up with one of my friends (whoese fiance had passed away a few months prior). She passed on this blind date becuase she said she saw something in my eye when I was describing him to her. He passed on this blind date because he confessed he'd always had a crush on me! Several months later I became single and he and I met again to see if we still had a friendship and well now 2 1/2 years later we are getting married!

SO i'm looking for the perfect word to describe what happend to us that I can use a the inscription on my wedding band and I'm stuck!! The word Fate just seems mean since I belive if my friends fiance had not pasessd away we'd all not be where we are today. My happiness came at the expense of someones sadness

Any suggestions are welcome! Thanks

MandaLynn13

It was 6 months after her fiancé had passed. She was ready to try meeting people to see if she was ready to date Believe me I did not push anything on her. She met a nice guy the following month and they've been together ever since. They now are looking at getting engaged

MandaLynn13

Thanks for the suggestion! When we were in school we joked that I'll Be by Edwin McCain was our song because we loved Dawson's Creek! So this is going to be our first dance song and the line, "I'll be better when I'm older" has now stood out to me that we ended up being better for each other when we got older!

Inkdancer

That sounds perfect. I think it's sweet.