Does your FI assume odd things about weddings?

clueclaw.defunct635777689035314155

Some of this might be my fault, because I keep sharing some of the rules I read on here, but my FI has assumed a couple of funny things about the wedding.

First, he thought he wasn't allowed to see the wedding presents. My grandfather and aunt sent us some presents very early, and they are being shipped to FI's parents house, so they won't sit outside our place while we are away on the honeymoon. Assuming any show up, it happened to some friends. Anyway, he was over there, and I wasn't. The name on the box was just his last name, so they weren't sure if it was for us or his parents. He hid upstairs while his sister opened the box to see if they were wedding presents. I thought it was funny, because he thought he wasn't allowed to see them before the wedding. I told him we had so see them, so we can send thank you cards.

Second, he got new dress shoes for that wedding. He thinks they are great and is proud of them. However, today he asked if he was allowed to wear them again after the wedding, or if he can only wear them for the wedding. I asked if he really thought all the other men who bought new shoes for their wedding never wore them again. He agreed that would be silly.

The way his mind works sometimes cracks me up.

hlvonb

That is funny!! My fiance has not assumed anything funny (at least not yet) haha

HisGirlFriday13

I'm confused. ..why did you have to open a present to send a STDate? Did I read that wrong?

hlvonb

@HisGirlFriday13

I am a bit confused too but I wonder if OP either meant thank you card or to get the address (off the box the gift was shipped in) to get the person's address to send the save the date

clueclaw.defunct635777689035314155

No, you didn't. Sorry, I meant thank you cards. I fixed it.

I probably need to go to bed.

hlvonb

@clueclaw

Lol. That's what I thought you meant but thank you for clarifying

HisGirlFriday13

You'd think I coukd have figured that out from context, but clearly not. It's been a day. I am also going to bed.

Your FI is hilarious, though! When I'm not Knotting from my phone and Knotting while exhausted, I will share some of my DH stories. I posted about him on CC the other day.

cruffino

My FI hasn't assumed anything odd; he just assumed that we have to do everything according to tradition. I disabused him of that early on.

climbingsingle

That is too funny! 

My FI hasn't assumed anything too odd. 

tmclawchick

FI assumed that since he'll rent his tux that I'll rent the dress. Swing and a miss.

JCbride2015

Fi very charmingly had no idea what a PPD was-- thank God.  I was giggling at TK and he asked me why, so I tried to explain the PPD concept.  When I told him that some people get married but pretend they aren't so they can use benefits and then have a redo wedding later: "But... but... why?  How?  They're already married, so how can they have a wedding?"

FiancB

FI has been in a lot of weddings, most of which have been pretty similar. I'm having a hard time convincing him that we shouldn't have a cash bar and that we shouldn't separate couples by having a typical head table. Other than that, nothing small like that, though he was shocked at how long it took to get my dress and do alterations. 

jdluvr06

FI hasn't voiced too many funny assumptions but a few weeks ago he told me he was surprised at how much there is to figure out. I think he thought we would pick a venue, music, and our clothes and everything else would just magically appear.

cmiles89

FI thought for sure we should send "courtesy invites" to EVERYONE is his family, whether he's talked to them ever in his life or not, because otherwise they'd be offended. This would not only put us entirely over venue capacity, but just be silly. His response? "Oh no, they won't come. We should invite like 30% over capacity anyways, because we'll get that many noes". Oh really...

He's also conviced the wedding parties MUST be equal (he's a little OCD), and that shoving cake in my face is acceptable. Oh, and that there's no reason I wouldn't want his head all the way up my dress to find my garter in front of everybody.

Oh, honey... no...

cmiles89

@glitterwitch22 I'm glad you feel my pain! His response is always "Well, it's tradition!" Oh yeah, tell me why I should care... His assumptions are almost always just fluff from movies, I totally agree. Once I challenge him to think about it, he gets it.

OH! The other big one (I've posted about this before) was his unending dedication to the assumption that the bride should/must wear pure white. That hit me like a pound of bricks. Like really? Even though I look terrible in stark white? We had a little chat about that, let me tell you...