My fiancé and I have finally decided we want a very small intimate wedding. We want to only invite our immediate family and best friends. We plan on sending invitations for a "surprise party" for my birthday to all of our other family and friends for afterwards and when we arrive we plan to announce at the party that we were just married. We still want little invitations that basically say you're invited to a secret wedding but don't spill the beans, but in a cute way. Any ideas on wording?
Re: Secret wedding.
I'm a little confused--are you planning to get married by yourselves without your friends and family as witnesses or is the entire event the surprise? Or are only a select few invited to the ceremony and then the rest of the guests are invited to the 'reception'?
I want to clarify, just because it will change my response completely.
To answer your first question, I don't have any ideas for your wording.
She didn't say that it was rude to want a small and intimate wedding. Along with that, telling people how to post and what they can or should respond to doesn't really go over well on the boards.
Have your dream wedding, whatever that may be, but also be open to making sure that you are hosting your guests properly in terms of good etiquette. Especially if what you want to do includes having a gathering after you've already been married for a week or more.