Underage BM.

Meggos1988

I am so lost and confused as to how I keep all of my BM on the same page. I have asked my FSIL to be a bridesmaid and she is only 15. I am sure when it comes time for the bachelorette party this will really come to a head. I really want to keep her as involved as possible but I am not too sure how to navigate this. Has any one had a good experience with this they would be willing to share?

OliveOilsMom

I am so lost and confused as to how I keep all of my BM on the same page. I have asked my FSIL to be a bridesmaid and she is only 15. I am sure when it comes time for the bachelorette party this will really come to a head. I really want to keep her as involved as possible but I am not too sure how to navigate this. Has any one had a good experience with this they would be willing to share?

My niece was a BM for me as well. She was 9 at the time of the wedding. I asked that she be included in the b party. She came out to dinner with us and my mom took her home after dinner while the rest of us headed to the bar. 

You could also do a tea party, spa day, or anything else that can be kid friendly.

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Divide the bachlorette party into two parts like other pp suggested. I went to one where someone being underaged wasn't an issue. They actually broke it out into 3 parts and people could participated based on their budget & time. They started off at a spa (I had to skip this part because I didn't have funds for that), then we all met up for dinner (where bridges aunt who helped raise her joined in) and then after dinner we went to a local bar. I had a lot of fun. Your younger BM could do the first two items in something like this. But if there are going to be adult gifts, maybe do that after she has left. She's only 15, but she is old enough to understand that there are parts of a bachlorette party that typically happen, like going to a bar, that she just isn't old enough to do.

 

audubonbride2013

PPs gave really good suggestions.  

I had this come up when I was a BM planning a bach party for the bride.  Her younger, underage sister was also a BM, and I wanted her to be there as much as possible.  We split the event into a nice dinner out, hang out at my apartment, and then walk to local bars.  The bride's sister just left when we left for the bars.

cowgirl8238

B-Parties don't have to be all about strippers and clubs.  I think everyone here already covered some great suggestions.  I just hope you ( are you the bride?) aren't planning your own party since that is considered rude.

Meggos1988

Oh gosh no I am not planning it. I know that my MOH is going to ask what I want to do (if what I say has any influence on their plans, that is another story :P) I just wanted to have some suggestions in my back pocket for when she asks. 

Thank you all for your ideas.

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Here are some more ideas, a friend of mine had an ice cream sundae making bachlorette party (it was a last minute party before her Vegas wedding so the bachlorette party was very low key since everyone was spending a nice chunk of change to go to the wedding in vegas). For mine we did a girls night in where everyone was asked to bring their favorite bottle of wine to share & the BM brought snacks & we watched some chick flicks.

tammym1001

Erikan73 said:

Divide the bachlorette party into two parts like other pp suggested. I went to one where someone being underaged wasn't an issue. They actually broke it out into 3 parts and people could participated based on their budget & time. They started off at a spa (I had to skip this part because I didn't have funds for that), then we all met up for dinner (where bridges aunt who helped raise her joined in) and then after dinner we went to a local bar. I had a lot of fun. Your younger BM could do the first two items in something like this. But if there are going to be adult gifts, maybe do that after she has left. She's only 15, but she is old enough to understand that there are parts of a bachlorette party that typically happen, like going to a bar, that she just isn't old enough to do.

 

I have 2 underage bridesmaids and this is exactly what we are doing for the bach party.