I want an "official" officiant but yet my fiance keeps offering to have someone in the family to take the class or the program (forgive me if I don't know the term) to make it intimate. Keep in mind I've already said no to my family members doing it.... I've learned that when you depend on someone you know to do something of importance or timely that sometimes you cannot depend on them to do things the way that you want them to do it, or that they at times have their own agenda. Help. How can I get him to understand that this is a time where you need someone, a professional, to do these types of services? Plus, I have one family member (I have much less family than he does) as a part of the (walking me down the isle!) ceremony and as of right now his brother-in-law is a groomsman, his nephew the ringbearer, his niece the flower girl and now he wants his sister to be the officiant. Please - HELP!