Out of town bride at bridal shower- will ship gifts home- make note on invite?

SingerCP

I am a bridesmaid in my soon to be sister-in-law's wedding and my mom and I are going to throw her a bridal shower.  The bride to be lives across the country and plans on shipping the gifts home.  My mom is concerned the gifts will be too heavy and thinks there should be a note on the invites reminding people that she will be shipping gifts home.  I think the note would be tacky and it might insult people but my mom insists.  Any thoughts?  Thanks!

KatWAG

The note would be super tacky. The bride should graciously receive any gifts. And then its on her to get them home. This should not be a concern for the guests.

Jen4948

Your mom is wrong.  The note would be very tacky.  It's up to the bride to figure out how she's going to ship the gifts home-not for the guests to deal with.

kmmssg

We live in MI, DD moved to UT, but came back for her shower and her wedding.  She knew it was on her to ship any gifts home, which she did.  I agree that it is tacky to put something like that on the invitation.  If your sister doesn't want to ship she should decline the shower (although it sounds like mom is the issue here).

photokitty

Agree with PP and you OP. If she gets anything super heavy, return in and rebut it at her local store. Some stores would resell it to her and ship it to her home easy peasy. GL!

Inkdancer

A shower is a gift-giving event. Either she should not have agreed to a shower hosted away from her home, or she should deal with whatever people give her.

I am sure that most people know how far away she lives. It is unlikely that anyone is going to try to bring a new mattress or something unshippable to the shower.

MyNameIsNot

That would be tacky.  Besides, anyone on the shower list should be close enough to the bride to know where she lives.  

Instead, ask your mom if she wants to throw in with you to pay for shipping as a gift.

lyndausvi

I lived on an island so had to to my stateside shower.  Guests figured it out on their own. Most sent large gifts directly to us on their own.   Those that didn't I returned the gift to the store and had them resend it to my home.     

Other tips included bringing an extra suitcase for smaller items. $25 checked luggage fee (for the 1st bag) is still cheaper then UPS or USPS.  I shipped the rest.  

 Goes against the whole don't use before the wedding line of thought, but I took most things out of it's original packaging to save space.  Had anything happened and the wedding wasn't going to take place I was prepared to replace anything.