holy bridezilla PPD !!

jenna8984

Oh WOW. I just had lunch with an old friend and she was telling me about a wedding that she is in. The 10 person bridal party must fly to Vegas (from Boston) and pay their own way for everything. The bride said "I found this 15 person suite that we will be sharing so here is your cost". Um, so nobody gets a say in where they stay or how much it costs and they don't even get their own room?! The bride then sent a daily itinerary in which the first day is the "bachelor/ bachelorette party" and she wants to go to this spa and this club and doesn't expect to be paying for herself that day. The next day they spend the entire day "getting ready" for the wedding. The wedding is a 10 minute I Do then going out to dinner. The bridal party must wear certain dresses with certain shoes (neon green, not something you can wear again). They fly out the next day- so not even a free day to do what you want?! 

Then 3 days later in Boston is the "reception" in which the bride is going ALL OUT with a different, larger gown and the bridal party must purchase/ wear different certain dresses and shoes than the Vegas ones!! WTFFFF. 

My friend said wedding is the only thing the bride talks about 24/7 with everyone, not just the bridal party. I told my friend to honestly not go be a part of that shitshow (she's 50/50 about it at this point) and I told her seriously suggest the bride come on this website!! I really hope she does. 

kmmssg

And why hasn't your friend dropped out of this ridiculousness?

jenna8984

She feels that because she's been such good friends with the girl for 15 years that she is obligated to or she won't be a good, supportive friend. I think after our talk she is really seeing just how crazy this bitch is being lol 

Amyzen83

An even more close and supportive friend would pull bride asside and tell her that she's nuts and should think of the legistics of this madness!

HisGirlFriday13

Holy. Effing. Shitballs.

If your friend is such a good friend to this girl, she should tell her that she's being over-the-top crazypants and is alienating people.

I'm curious, though -- why did you call the Vegas trip a PPD? Are the couple already married? Or are you calling the reception in Boston the PPD?

jenna8984

Definitely the Boston party is the PPD. Only 10 people for Vegas, yet 100 people for the party at home so she can wear a new gown and get presents. 

MobKaz

jenna8984 said:

She feels that because she's been such good friends with the girl for 15 years that she is obligated to or she won't be a good, supportive friend. I think after our talk she is really seeing just how crazy this bitch is being lol 

But she thinks what the bride is doing to her and the other BM's is a demonstration of friendship??

Simply Fated

jenna8984 said:

Oh WOW. I just had lunch with an old friend and she was telling me about a wedding that she is in. The 10 person bridal party must fly to Vegas (from Boston) and pay their own way for everything. The bride said "I found this 15 person suite that we will be sharing so here is your cost". Um, so nobody gets a say in where they stay or how much it costs and they don't even get their own room?! The bride then sent a daily itinerary in which the first day is the "bachelor/ bachelorette party" and she wants to go to this spa and this club and doesn't expect to be paying for herself that day. The next day they spend the entire day "getting ready" for the wedding. The wedding is a 10 minute I Do then going out to dinner. The bridal party must wear certain dresses with certain shoes (neon green, not something you can wear again). They fly out the next day- so not even a free day to do what you want?! 

Then 3 days later in Boston is the "reception" in which the bride is going ALL OUT with a different, larger gown and the bridal party must purchase/ wear different certain dresses and shoes than the Vegas ones!! WTFFFF. 

My friend said wedding is the only thing the bride talks about 24/7 with everyone, not just the bridal party. I told my friend to honestly not go be a part of that shitshow (she's 50/50 about it at this point) and I told her seriously suggest the bride come on this website!! I really hope she does. 

With the exception of the bolded part, this whole thing would be a dealbreaker for me, as a bridesmaid.
I hope your friend either finds her voice (No is not a four letter word) or opts out completely.

FiancB

Daaaamn. So basically, it's costing the BMs thousands of dollars and about a week of their lives to be her props. Nope. Nope. Nope. 

jenna8984

Yea I find nothing wrong with the short I do and dinner, I just meant when flying across the country and being bossed around I'd expect to be hosted a little more than dinner at a restaurant.

kerbohl

That is beyond insane.  Tell your friend to drop out!  She shouldn't have to deal with this. 

CMGragain

If your friend decides to go ahead with this circus wedding, she is enabling bad behavior.  I doubt the friendship would survive the "weddings".  She really needs to politely decline the honor.

abbyj700

Perhaps this friend can politely get through to this girl. I might suggest her saying "hey - I can't make the Vegas ceremony due to financial reasons and the time commitment - but I really would like to be a part of your wedding so I'd be happy to be in your more traditional half of the week." Perhaps one (or a few) close friends saying they want to be supportive but can't do the whole affair might get through to the bride. 

kat & matt

I think that's the worst I've ever heard and I sadly admit to watching lots of Bridezilla episodes. I agree with previous posters, kindly decline!

Love_Cam

Are the shoes she is expected to wear supposed to be neon green or the dress? I can't get over that part.

Maggie0829

Just because you have been friends with some one for many years does not mean you are blighted to spend thousands of dollars for their week long wedding craziness. It also does not make you a bad friend to not want to spend that much on your friends wedding either.

jenna8984

I told her everyone here agrees and she really would not be out of line to back out. We shall see what she chooses......

bananasplit472001

My sister is having a destination wedding with reception with no bridesmaids/groomsman just MOH and BM.  Her FI family is throwing a huge reception when they come back with bridesmaids and groomsmen.  All of the bridesmaids actually want to purchase the same dress that i am wearing and get their hair professionally done for a wedding that they weren't even in.  They are technically just honorary bridesmaids.  I say that It is a lot to ask of the bridesmaids but if they have no objections and want a new outfit for both events then let them.  They should have at least been given a choice of either attending both the destination wedding and home reception and choosing to purchase dresses for two separate events for the same wedding.