Head Table

crunchymamaof2

antoto said:

cookie0803 said:

I've been to weddings where SOs were seated together and where they were not. Anytime the wedding party and their SOs were separated, that was only one of the major etiquette fails present.
We weren't wild about the idea of a sweetheart table, so we asked our venue about a king's table. They said the space couldn't accommodate that, so we sucked it up and had a sweetheart table. NBD, it's not even like we were seated for very long, anyway. We had the wedding party at four different tables (with their SOs, of course), and seated them by groups: my elementary school friends, high school friends, H's family members and some of their friends, and H's high school friends. None of the tables were exclusively wedding party and dates, either. We had non-WP members with their dates at those tables, as well. Everyone looked pretty damn pleased with our arrangement.

That's exactly how my seating is being done!  I'm glad your guests liked it - really hoping my does too!

I really bet they will. We did the same. Our head table was just us and our two boys. BM and family sat with DH parents and the GM and one if my BM as they all knew each other. My MOH and her family said with a mutual friend and her family. My last BM and her family sat with my aunts and another friend as they all were friends. It worked out really well.

phira

Yeah, I think one of the major things to remember is that the couple does not spend a whole lot of time socializing at the table they're sitting at. If you have a head table, you're going to either be 1) putting food in your mouth, 2) getting interrupted by people coming over to congratulate you, 3) going to tables to great guests, or 4) dancing up a storm.

Your guests are going to be getting up to dance up a storm at some point, but they're (as a group) going to spend more time at the tables, eating and socializing. A head tables usually means that the wedding party is awkwardly sitting there while the couple does wedding things. A sweetheart table solves the issue of leaving the wedding party to sit and eat awkwardly, and if you're not a huge fan of that, keep in mind that you will barely be sitting all night.

MrsAitch

Thank you whoever posted the king's table idea! I had been thinking of just seating ourselves as if we were any other guests and mixing the bridal party in there in the same fashion because I hate one sided head tables and everyone watching you eat--most of the weddings I have been to, the head tables were up on platforms as well..truly awful. Our venue has long banquet tables available for a head table though, and I love the idea of just making a big long table in the center of the room for bridal party + dates/SOs where we sit on both sides of the table in a normal fashion.

Seriously, this is the best idea. I can't wait to tell my fiance and mom!