I got engaged last June, and I told my family members while I asked for addresses. Some out of state relatives congratulated me, but said they know they won't be able to afford the trip for the wedding. My mom said I should still send an invitation, because it's polite. I thought I was polite when I first talked to them and asked for their addresses. Then I thought they were polite when they kindly explained that they cannot make it. Some did not even give me the address when they told me they couldn't make it.
Would you send an invitation to people who already said they know they can't come for financial reasons? I can't decide if it's nicer to send the invitation because I'm thinking of them, or if it is nicer to remember that they cannot come and avoid sending an invitation so they don't feel bad declining a second time.
No one received a save the date, as our arrangement for having them made fell through. We told people by word of mouth to save our date.