My side of the bridal party is my sister (MOH) and my two best friends from high school. I'm getting married in September 2014 in Georgia. All three of my maids live in NJ. One of my high school friends informed me that she is pregnant with her third child - so excited for her and her growing family. She is due two days before my wedding, making her attendance at the wedding virtually impossible in any form (BM or guest) except if something horrific and/or unexpected happens (which could be incredibly sad and for which I am NOT hoping). She said she would understand if I wanted to replace her/demote her and I said I would absolutely not do that. She's my best friend and I truly want her there to share my day and to be a BM. But if she can't fulfill Rule #2 of a BM (showing up; Rule #1 being buying a dress), should she remove herself? If she doesn't remove herself, do I expect that she buy a dress she'll never wear? (That sounds silly and bridezilla-ish just typing it out...) She still wants to be involved in everything - bridal showers, bachelorette activities, etc. Can you have a "BM in spirit"?