"Head" table

emilie250

MobKaz

My daughter did this.  She did not want a large head table since they had 10 in their wedding party. To accommodate the entire wedding party, they would have had to tier their tables.  They opted for a modified sweetheart table that include their MOH, BM, and SO's.  The remainder of the wedding party sat with their SO"s and groups of mutual friends.  No one was offended because they were all seated with friends.  And given the option, they sure as heck preferred it over some clumsy tiered seating system, even with their SO's.

doeydo

You could always put several tables together for 'one' big head table.  Examples:

WildMagelet

scribe95 said:

The middle ground is to have a king's table where it is you/hubby and best man/so and moh/so.

Rest of bridal party is seated out amongst the tables.

This would be my vote.

Maggie0829

H and I sat with my MOH (sister) her husband and their daughter, my parents and H's parents.  The rest of our wedding party sat with their SOs at tables near by with people that they know and were friends with.

antoto

Are you against a sweetheart table for any reason?

I say that only because if you just have a sweetheart table then your bridal party all gets to sit sit with their SOs but ALSO all of their SOs (who may or may not know anyone else) wont feel like everyone is staring at them.

Speaking only my personal opinion I would feel super weird if I went to a wedding as a +1 and had to sit at the head table and didn't know anyone.   

If you really dislike the idea of a sweetheart table then I would DEFINITELY do a kings table.

RedJacks25

We're doing a sweetheart table. The day is going to be so crazy, and it will be nice to be able to spend some moments with just my new husband, chatting quietly while we eat. We obviously don't plan to spend all night at the table, and we will mingle with our guests and such, but I really look forward to those moments of just the two of us.

I don't think that having a sweetheart table means that you won't be chatting with your guests.

manateehugger

I hate sweetheart tables for the same reason you do, so I get it. If other people like them, cool, but FI and I refused to do one. We're doing a king's table something like this one - could it work?

antoto

RedJacks25 said:

We're doing a sweetheart table. The day is going to be so crazy, and it will be nice to be able to spend some moments with just my new husband, chatting quietly while we eat. We obviously don't plan to spend all night at the table, and we will mingle with our guests and such, but I really look forward to those moments of just the two of us.

I don't think that having a sweetheart table means that you won't be chatting with your guests.

We are doing a sweetheart table in part for this as well. 

I literally have nothing to add to what you said - that is exactly my thought process as well.

scb2471

I was MOH in wedding, they had sweetheart table, and the rest of the WP sat with people they knew. And having been in the WP for others with head tables, really preferred sitting at 'regular table' with other guests...

antoto

scb2471 said:

I was MOH in wedding, they had sweetheart table, and the rest of the WP sat with people they knew. And having been in the WP for others with head tables, really preferred sitting at 'regular table' with other guests...

Yeah I feel like after the photos are done the WP just wants to party!  

PrettyGirlLost

FemmeLavande said:

Our wedding is in a while so I don't "need" an answer to this question, but I've been wondering about the head table.

We really want to seat our BP with their SOs (it just seems right) but there isn't enough room at the table for sixteen people. We also don't want a sweetheart table because we want to talk to our guests during dinner. Is it ok to have some people in the WP and their SOs at the head table, but then put other people in the WP and their SOs at tables they fit naturally (i.e. with their friends or people they know well). I don't want to offend any of them by choosing who gets to sit at "our" table, but that seems like the best solution. Thoughts?

Then the Sweetheart Table is the perfect solution.  It allows your WP to sit with their SO's and the rest of the guests so that they can socialize, and it gives you and your husband 10-15mins alone to eat before you have to get up and make your rounds.

MrsMack10612

We did something similar to PPs - we had a table with us, our BM his SO, MOH and her SO. All the other WP folks were seated with common friends or family.

KateJ16

I am not too keen on being put on display while I eat, so we're having a head table that is actually a giant square to seat all 20 of us.  It's also going to be in the middle of the other tables, so we're still "special" but not on display. 

I think my coordinator said it was going to be something like 3 buffet tables put together and then covered as one.  I think this also works for better conversation (which was another reason I didn't want the standard head table, as I feel you're stuck with who's directly beside you and can't talk to anyone else).

sarahufl

Is it odd that I don't want a sweetheart, kings, or head table? The one wedding I was in with a head table was SO AWKWARD. At my sister's wedding, they had the standard 60 inch round tables and we just sat at one of them. There was no focus on us at all.

Maggie0829

sarahufl said:

Is it odd that I don't want a sweetheart, kings, or head table? The one wedding I was in with a head table was SO AWKWARD. At my sister's wedding, they had the standard 60 inch round tables and we just sat at one of them. There was no focus on us at all.

Not odd at all.  We did just as your sister did.  It was nice to just be able to focus on the 6 people we had around us rather then being bombarded by people coming up to us because we were sitting alone at a sweetheart table.

Simply Fated

Maggie0829 said:

sarahufl said:

Is it odd that I don't want a sweetheart, kings, or head table? The one wedding I was in with a head table was SO AWKWARD. At my sister's wedding, they had the standard 60 inch round tables and we just sat at one of them. There was no focus on us at all.

Not odd at all.  We did just as your sister did.  It was nice to just be able to focus on the 6 people we had around us rather then being bombarded by people coming up to us because we were sitting alone at a sweetheart table.

I know I've said this before in other threads, but this might be the first time I've seen someone else say it.
I don't get the whole, "sit at a sweetheart table so you can have alone time with your new husband!" because Every single sweetheart table I've ever seen (about a hundred, possibly more, no exaggeration) has ever had just the bride and groom sitting at it eating a peaceful dinner, just the two of them. Every five seconds another guest is coming over to talk with them. A few brides on here have maintained that it is the only alone time they had on their wedding day and I would love to know how they pulled it off or if maybe they're remembering it wrong.

emilie250