my one wedding regret

cruffino

I was super organized about everything except making a list of family photos for the photographer. So we took photos with the wedding party and our parents, but that's it. I was so busy that it wasn't until the end of the night that I realized that we didn't take pictures with my grandparents. I am feeling really sad about that.

I've even considered putting my dress back on and taking some photos with them now, after the fact. But that also seems pointless. I think I missed the opportunity and I need to deal with it. But I admit I'm feeling really bad about it. Is there anything I can do...or do I just need to move on?

Blergbot

I would just take a picture with them next time you have a get together. My grandparents all passed away years ago, so, naturally, they won't be at my wedding (same with FI). Just remember that your relationship with them and your memories with them are more important than having a perfect moment captured on film.

cruffino

@Blergbot
I've been telling myself that the strength of our relationship isnt measure by a stupid photo, but for some reason this is really hitting me hard. I think it's because they're in their 80's and we don't have too much time left. Also, as the photographer was herding us outside I heard my nana say, "where do the grandparents go?"

erinlin25

awe that is a bummer.  I would not go as far as putting the dress on and whatnot (well, maybe-- i'd love to wear my dress again ) But at least make it a point that next time you see them you definitely take a picture with them.  There is not much you can do about it now.  But I know how you feel, my grandma just turned 90 and she lives in NY (we are in CA). She always said the only/last time she would travel far would be for my wedding, so I was so grateful she actually made the trip and I cherish that picture for we do not get to see each other often. 

WildMagelet

Are you planning on doing bridal portraits?

My grandmother suffered a stroke and I'm fairly certain she won't be able to physically come to our wedding.  Before her stroke I had planned on asking to do bridal portraits + BM luncheon in her garden.  Now I'm contemplating doing pictures in the town she lives in and visiting her in my dress so she can see it in person.

Blergbot is right though, your memories are way more important than the film evidence  and even if you get pictures taken after-the-fact, you'll still remember that they weren't taken *at* the wedding.

Blergbot

I would talk to them about your feelings. Something like, "Things got kind of rushed at the wedding, but I just wanted to know how important you are to me. Can we take a special photo together now?" I bet they would love that.

pinkcow13

Blergbot advice above is great. 

cruffino

Yeah, it's good advice to talk to them next time we get together. I just have to let this one go.

MyNameIsNot

I got some formals with my grandparents and me, but without my husband.  I was a little disappointed that we didn't get any good photos of them with my husband or any good photos with the whole family.  

Luckily, my sister is as obsessed with photos as I am, so she agreed to split a photographer with me for my grandfather's 80's birthday the year after our wedding.  Since it was the middle of the day on a Sunday for 2 hours, we were able to get a great photographer for about $300 including digital rights.  We got the whole family to show up at a pretty park in our Sunday best and shot some fantastic photos.  Rather than do a bridal re-shoot, would you be happy with some pro pics for another occasion?  

I love the ones we shot so much that I'm dead set on doing another set for grandpa's 85th.  

cruffino

So I calledmy nana last night and had a nice talk. She said she had a wonderful fme at the wedding and wasn't too disappointed about the photos. I plan to call my grandma and grandpa today.

@mynameisnot
Thanks, that's a great idea! My niece's 2nd bday party is in April and we will all be there. I think I'll talk to my sister and see if she would be ok with a mini photoshoot before tge party.