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Am I silly for being annoyed? And other random Saturday evening talk.

So I have a brother I'm not really fond of.  I haven't seen him since Nov 2011 (although that is mostly due to living in different parts of the country).  I speak to him twice a year or so of via FB.

He has a 15 year old daughter and a 14 year old son.  The 15 year old is very talented singer and her choir will be singing at the Vatican and other European area in the summer.  I hear from my mom that last year she feel short of fundraising and could not go to Canada.    This is a huge honor for her so I decided I would send her some money.  In mid-Jan  I contacted her via text telling her what I wanted to do and asked for her email.  She gave it to me. I then sent a Chase Quick pay of $100 to her and told her to be on the lookout for the email from Chase.   Never heard back.    

3 days ago I noticed the money was never collected and had expired.   I resent the money and contact my brother to let him know what I was trying to do.  He said she was really busy in January and he would look into it for me.   3 days ago and still nothing from brother nor as the money been picked up.

What is wrong with these people?  Why would you ignore money being sent to you? At the very least let me know you received the email?  If it expires this time it's their loss.






What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 

Re: Am I silly for being annoyed? And other random Saturday evening talk.

  • Yeah I'd be annoyed.  This also casts doubt on the claim about falling short of her fundraising... if she is really short of money, why not take the Quickpay?

    It just seems ungrateful.
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  • You're definitely not silly for being annoyed. That is very frustrating and ungrateful. I not only would not ignore it but would send a nice thank you note - very strange that they can't even make a tiny effort to even collect the money much less respond to you or thank you! You were super kind to send the money a second time! 
  • I would be annoyed too. It's not like they didn't know it was coming.
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  • That would be really annoying.
  • That's really weird.
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  • My brother is strange and generally ungrateful which is one reason I'm not fond of him.  I was hoping it wasn't passed on to his kids.








    What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
  • I'd be pissed too. Don't complain that you didn't make goal and then make no effort to get the gift that helps you get there.

    If memory serves me, is this the same bro/SIL who wouldn't let their DD participate in the pre wedding pampering festivities?
  • Your memory is amazing Banana.




    Random Saturday night story -  my parents just returned from 2 weeks in FL.  Mom was in the hospital for 3-4 days of said trip, so it wasn't the best vacation. So they drive in only to find they had a squatter in their home.   Yep, a squirrel decided to move in.   I'm such a bad daughter, but I just burst out in laughter.   Mom insisted on going with dad to home depot because she didn't want to be alone with the squirrel.   Dad leave for China on Tuesday for 3-4 weeks.  Let's hope he catches it before he leaves.






    What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
  • I'd be ticked, too. And you're nicer than I am -- I would not have re-sent the money.
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  • I would be ticked too! Oh Lynda I am so close to you! I am at Buffalo Wild Wings in Greenwood!
  • No!  The one on US31?  That is like 7 miles away.






    What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
  • Yep. Helped DD paint their new house and get it ready for when her and the kids move here in 3 weeks. So bummed, i have always wanted to meet you!
  • Bummer, I would have totally met up with you.  I was almost down there today, but decide to go to the mall up north instead.






    What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
  • Maybe someday......
  • Lynda, your poor parents!   All I can think of is the scene in National Lampoon's Christmas Vacation when the squirrel gets into the house and Christmas is nearly cancelled.

    From what I remember, isn't SIL also an issue here?   It sounds like neither she nor BIL are teaching their children about proper gratitude. 
  • My sister sent a gif to my mom of the NL - Christmas Vacation squirrel scene.


    and yes SIL is crazy also.






    What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
  • If they don't collect the money this time, I just wouldn't send it again.  If they really needed it, they'd have picked it up. Maybe they just don't want her to go on the trips.
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