Boss and kids?

hlvonb

So my boss and I were talking the other day and my boss asked me when the wedding was. 

Anyway, I got the impression that my boss wanted to ask or for me to volunteer information as to if my boss is invited. I didn't say anything regarding that because as of right now the answer is no because of my boss's kids. They are a terror and I am worried about how they would behave at the wedding.

I have thought about sending an invitation to Mr and Mrs boss and not include their kids on the invitation. 

Would that be okay? What would I do if my boss RSVPs with the kids included?

pinkshorts27

As far as I know, of course that is okay. Though you would be willing to call said boss up and say "I'm sorry for the confusion but the invite was for you and Mrs. Boss. Unfortunately we cannot accommodate your children. We hope you are still able to attend"

hlvonb

blueeyes90 said:

As far as I know, of course that is okay. Though you would be willing to call said boss up and say "I'm sorry for the confusion but the invite was for you and Mrs. Boss. Unfortunately we cannot accommodate your children. We hope you are still able to attend"

@blueeyes90

Yeah I am not looking forward to that (if it were to happen) and I also am worried that might effect my employment. I know it's silly to worry about that because if it did, I could have a lawsuit (depending on how it effected it)

KytchynWitche

As long as you address the invitation properly, that is to Mr and Mrs Boss, you shouldn't have a problem. If they do somehow respond for the kids as well, then you just do what @blueeyes90 said.

hlvonb

urbaneca said:

As long as you address the invitation properly, that is to Mr and Mrs Boss, you shouldn't have a problem. If they do somehow respond for the kids as well, then you just do what @blueeyes90 said.

@urbaneca

Yeah I know but I am not looking forward to that (if it were to happen) and I also am worried that might effect my employment. I know it's silly to worry about that because if it did, I could have a lawsuit (depending on how it effected it)

KytchynWitche

hlvonb said:

urbaneca said:

As long as you address the invitation properly, that is to Mr and Mrs Boss, you shouldn't have a problem. If they do somehow respond for the kids as well, then you just do what @blueeyes90 said.

@urbaneca

Yeah I know but I am not looking forward to that (if it were to happen) and I also am worried that might effect my employment. I know it's silly to worry about that because if it did, I could have a lawsuit (depending on how it effected it)

Only you know your boss, so only you can make that call. If your boss is really the type to bring an outside matter into the workplace and/or go to court over it, then you may be better off not inviting them at all.

pinkshorts27

@hlvonb  It is not silly to worry about the employment, but I wouldn't count on a lawsuit to protect you. (a) that seems extreme and (b) it is very difficult to prove that the this incident affected your employment status.

hlvonb

urbaneca said:

hlvonb said:

urbaneca said:

As long as you address the invitation properly, that is to Mr and Mrs Boss, you shouldn't have a problem. If they do somehow respond for the kids as well, then you just do what @blueeyes90 said.

@urbaneca

Yeah I know but I am not looking forward to that (if it were to happen) and I also am worried that might effect my employment. I know it's silly to worry about that because if it did, I could have a lawsuit (depending on how it effected it)

Only you know your boss, so only you can make that call. If your boss is really the type to bring an outside matter into the workplace and/or go to court over it, then you may be better off not inviting them at all.

@urbaneca

Yeah I don't know if I am worried about it because I am just paranoid / anxious about everything or not. Lol

hlvonb

blueeyes90 said:

@hlvonb  It is not silly to worry about the employment, but I wouldn't count on a lawsuit to protect you. (a) that seems extreme and (b) it is very difficult to prove that the this incident affected your employment status.

@blueeyes90

Yeah I know it seems extreme. I am hoping I am just being overly worried. Lol. I work in the law enforcement field so I know that it could be hard to prove. It would all depend on if anything happened and what it was (if something did).

KytchynWitche

hlvonb said:

urbaneca said:

hlvonb said:

urbaneca said:

As long as you address the invitation properly, that is to Mr and Mrs Boss, you shouldn't have a problem. If they do somehow respond for the kids as well, then you just do what @blueeyes90 said.

@urbaneca

Yeah I know but I am not looking forward to that (if it were to happen) and I also am worried that might effect my employment. I know it's silly to worry about that because if it did, I could have a lawsuit (depending on how it effected it)

Only you know your boss, so only you can make that call. If your boss is really the type to bring an outside matter into the workplace and/or go to court over it, then you may be better off not inviting them at all.

@urbaneca

Yeah I don't know if I am worried about it because I am just paranoid / anxious about everything or not. Lol

That may be the case.

In Afrikaans, we have a lovely saying that translates roughly to "fetching the baboon that's behind the mountain" - it means trying to solve a problem that you haven't actually got yet. Right now, I think you're fetching the baboon a little bit.

When do your invites need to go out by? Can you take a break from it for a day or two? Take a break if you can and try not to think about it for a little while.

jenna8984

How long have you worked there? Are you semi friends with your boss- like do you joke around and bullshit and ask how each other's weekend was? If not, I wouldn't invite them. My boss is only 2 years older than me so we get along well but if he or I were to ever leave this company we would never speak again/ be friends so I see no point in the invite.

We have a small department of 6 of us, so we were all invited to a coworker's wedding. I though it was nice to include us but I won't be doing it lol

pumpkinsandturkeys

urbaneca said:

hlvonb said:

urbaneca said:

hlvonb said:

urbaneca said:

As long as you address the invitation properly, that is to Mr and Mrs Boss, you shouldn't have a problem. If they do somehow respond for the kids as well, then you just do what @blueeyes90 said.

@urbaneca

Yeah I know but I am not looking forward to that (if it were to happen) and I also am worried that might effect my employment. I know it's silly to worry about that because if it did, I could have a lawsuit (depending on how it effected it)

Only you know your boss, so only you can make that call. If your boss is really the type to bring an outside matter into the workplace and/or go to court over it, then you may be better off not inviting them at all.

@urbaneca

Yeah I don't know if I am worried about it because I am just paranoid / anxious about everything or not. Lol

That may be the case.

In Afrikaans, we have a lovely saying that translates roughly to "fetching the baboon that's behind the mountain" - it means trying to solve a problem that you haven't actually got yet. Right now, I think you're fetching the baboon a little bit.

When do your invites need to go out by? Can you take a break from it for a day or two? Take a break if you can and try not to think about it for a little while.

Loving this phrase. I think I may start to incorporate that into my day-to-day vocab haha

KytchynWitche

@pumpkinsandturkeys - Glad I could pass it on! Afrikaans has some really great sayings and expressions.

hlvonb

urbaneca said:

hlvonb said:

urbaneca said:

hlvonb said:

urbaneca said:

As long as you address the invitation properly, that is to Mr and Mrs Boss, you shouldn't have a problem. If they do somehow respond for the kids as well, then you just do what @blueeyes90 said.

@urbaneca

Yeah I know but I am not looking forward to that (if it were to happen) and I also am worried that might effect my employment. I know it's silly to worry about that because if it did, I could have a lawsuit (depending on how it effected it)

Only you know your boss, so only you can make that call. If your boss is really the type to bring an outside matter into the workplace and/or go to court over it, then you may be better off not inviting them at all.

@urbaneca

Yeah I don't know if I am worried about it because I am just paranoid / anxious about everything or not. Lol

That may be the case.

In Afrikaans, we have a lovely saying that translates roughly to "fetching the baboon that's behind the mountain" - it means trying to solve a problem that you haven't actually got yet. Right now, I think you're fetching the baboon a little bit.

When do your invites need to go out by? Can you take a break from it for a day or two? Take a break if you can and try not to think about it for a little while.

@urbaneca

I have a little while yet before they have to go out.

hlvonb

jenna8984 said:

How long have you worked there? Are you semi friends with your boss- like do you joke around and bullshit and ask how each other's weekend was? If not, I wouldn't invite them. My boss is only 2 years older than me so we get along well but if he or I were to ever leave this company we would never speak again/ be friends so I see no point in the invite.

We have a small department of 6 of us, so we were all invited to a coworker's wedding. I though it was nice to include us but I won't be doing it lol

@jenna8984

I have been there a little under a year but I have known my boss for about 2 years

KytchynWitche

Definitely take a break from thinking about it then. Chances are the answer will smack you in the face when you're thinking about/working on other stuff.

hlvonb

Thanks @urbaneca