Ok, this might be a dumb question

themuffinman16

I am considering DIYing my invitations.  I want to create a sample to see if my ambition is greater than my actual talent.  For wedding invitations, do you add the names of the people invited on the invitations.  Or, do you leave the invitations generic and just put the names of the people invited on the response card with the decline or accept box?  I don't want anybody crashing the wedding, and I only want certain people to come.  I am new to this process, so please pardon my stupid question.  But where do you dictate who is invited to the wedding, on the invitation and rsvp or just the rsvp?  (I know not to put anything on the invites like no children allowed, etc).  Thanks

CMGragain

You usually indicate who is invited on the outside envelope.  You simply address the invitation to the people you want to come to your wedding.  If you don't want children, for instance, you don't put their names on the invitation.
You should know that it is extremely rude to only invite one member of a couple that is in a relationship.  No inviting wives without their husbands.
Why don't you check your invitation wording with us?  Who is hosting your wedding?  Is it a church wedding, or somewhere else?

themuffinman16

Extra Virgin Martini

& 

Popeye Sailor Man

Request the pleasure of your company

At the celebration of their union

Friday the thirty eighth of July

Two thousand fourteen

At four o'clock in the afternoon

The HobNob Banquet Facility

1000 Turducken Road, East Jesus, North Nowhere

Reception to follow

I am inviting all SO's of guests including  plus ones for my wedding party. My Fi and I might have some help, but it has not been decided.  My father is not coming to my wedding, my step-mother bought me the dress, and my mother cannot afford to help.  I would not want to mention my step-mother's financial help, because it would upset my mother (my step-mom knows this and understands my situation). FIs father has mentioned helping out with some things, but it has only gone as far as mentioning, and FI feels uncomfortable asking his dad about it.  Ceremony and reception are at the reception site.

       

themuffinman16

And secondly, do I include my wedding website information on the invitation (it seems weird to add technology to a keepsake.)  I wanted to include directions to the venue on the website, instead of having one more paper added to the invite.  My problem is my registry information is on my wedding website. And I would feel (however indirectly, it is like asking for a gift).  Or, in the world of mapquest, smartphones, etc, realize everyone can probably manage to find the venue?

Maggie0829

Below is better wording...and I assumed you meant the 30th of July not the 38th of July

Extra Virgin Martini

and

Popeye Sailor Man

request the pleasure of your company

at the celebration of their union

Friday, the thirtieth of July

two thousand fourteen

at four o'clock

The HobNob Banquet Facility

1000 Turducken Road, East Jesus, North Nowhere

Reception to follow

If you are only having one envelope then everyone invited should be listed on that envelope.

I would include a direction card insert into your invitation.  Anything of importance that you think people will need from your website should also be included in your invitation (such as directions, accommodations, etc) since some people will not check your website.

I am also on the side where your registry information should not be included on your website.  You should not promote your registry information unless asked.  A wedding website, to me, is basically a virtual extension of the paper invitation, so anything you wouldn't typically put on the invitation shouldn't be on the website.

If you remove the registry information from your website it would be fine, but not 100% necessary to include your website on the invitation.  You can easily put it at the bottom of your direction or other insert card.

themuffinman16

Yes, it's actually the twenty fifth of July.  I was not sure what i should be hiding from the interwebs. Lol. 

   Also, Fi thinks I should write "reception to immediately follow", but I think it is just assumed because it is proper etiquette to not have  a gap.

 

Maggie0829

I think in regards to the reception line, either or is appropriate.  But if your FI really wants "reception to immediately follow" I would just go with that.

themuffinman16

Thanks, Maggie  I also wanted to say I will have my invites in two separate fonts. One font for our names, and another for the invitation wording.  The invitation wording will be in all caps (but much faller font size, so I don't look angry). Lol. The venue is in a slighter larger font than the rest of the information so it will stand out to the reader.  And, of course, our names are in the largest font size.

CMGragain

The bride and groom never directly invite guests to their wedding.  This is the correct form:

The pleasure of your company is requested
at the marriage of

Extra Virgin Martini

and

Popeye Sailor Man

Friday, the thirtieth of July

two thousand fourteen

at four o'clock

The HobNob Banquet Facility

1000 Turducken Road
City, State

Reception to follow

The wording you are using does not make it clear that this is an invitation to a wedding.  It sounds like a vow renewal or  a party to celebrate a marriage that has already taken place.  This is why traditional wording works best.
The other ladies are correct.  You cannot have a tiered wedding.  Invite everyone to everything, or limit the ceremony to immediate family only.

themuffinman16

Not having a tiered wedding at all

themuffinman16

Maybe I was unclear but everyone is invited to the wedding and reception

doeydo

CMGragain said:

The bride and groom never directly invite guests to their weeding.  This is the correct form:

The pleasure of your company is requested
at the marriage of

Extra Virgin Martini

and

Popeye Sailor Man

Friday, the thirtieth of July

two thousand fourteen

at four o'clock

The HobNob Banquet Facility

1000 Turducken Road
City, State

Reception to follow

The wording you are using does not make it clear that this is an invitation to a wedding.  It sounds like a vow renewal or  a party to celebrate a marriage that has already taken place.  This is why traditional wording works best.
The other ladies are correct.  You cannot have a tiered wedding.  Invite everyone to everything, or limit the ceremony to immediate family only.

This.  "The celebration of their union" doesn't actually tell me that I am being invited to a wedding.  

themuffinman16

Thanks, ladies.  Glad I posted here. Kind of took wording from another invitation, and have no idea what I am doing.  Thank God for TK.  I'm not a very traditional girl, so I am clueless when it comes to bridey things. This is the first part I have ever thrown. Lol.. a little out of my element.

MyNameIsNot

I think PP have hit everything else, but I just wanted to add that it's an option to pre-print guest names on the RSVP.  This is a good idea if you think people will try to add extra guests (especially kids).  If you do that, you'd do:

John Smith  ___ beef  ___ fish ___ declines

Jane Smith  ___ beef  ___ fish ___ declines 

themuffinman16

Thanks for the wording on the rsvps.  Great idea!