I've had quite the evening on TK. I deleted a post on the snarky brides board and some people were quite annoyed. I explained that I deleted it because I didn't feel it advanced any sort of useful conversation (the topic was wedding budgets and over-consumption). Rather than engaging with the substance of my post, some knotties commented on how they were so annoyed with me because I had deleted another post this week. I was repeatedly told that deleting posts is "rude".
Honestly, I fail to see how deleting a post is rude. As I wrote in another post, advice on a very individual question (i.e. how does this dress look on me) certainly will not help others. As for it being somehow against the spirit of online forums because others like to see what has been posted, there is plenty of content to go around - no one needs to see me in a dress.
I was also told that "proselytizing" is rude - that is exactly why I deleted the post about wedding budgets and over-consumption. I didn't think it would advance any sort of useful conversation and this wasn't the appropriate forum to have such a discussion.
I am shocked that some of you would take the time to go around to a bunch of discussions I participated in and "quote" me. Seriously? That's so much more rude than action I have taken - I have not "attacked" any individual directly.
Some of you will noticed that I have since deleted some of my posts.
I joined The Knot thinking it would be a great way to share experiences and advice with other brides. I'm so disappointed at today's events because they do not at all coincide with these hopes. I sincerely hope that my future experience will be more positive.