Just got the REAL reason to send STDs....

LizM61409

... it forces you to compile everyone's addresses so you're not scrambling to get it done when you're closer to the 6-8 week mark. It's nice to get that checked off the to-do list now!

JennyColada

Good idea!

hlvonb

LizM61409 said:

... it forces you to compile everyone's addresses so you're not scrambling to get it done when you're closer to the 6-8 week mark. It's nice to get that checked off the to-do list now!

@LizM61409

I can't agree more. I am so glad we decided to do save the dates because we got all the addresses nice and early!

HisGirlFriday13

OMG so true!! 

Seriously, I swear STDates were invented just to give you extra time to get the damn addresses for people your family/ILs swear 'have to be invited' but for whom they have ABSOLUTELY NO CONTACT INFORMATION.

(I am (a) on my third glass of wine and (b) still slightly salty about DH's BSC grandmother's behaviour pre-wedding.)

pinkshorts27

Yes, it has taken two weeks for FI's aunt to get back to me. I had other email addresses, but didn't want to go around her once she offered to help. So glad I'm getting addresses and phone numbers for everyone right now. When I need to hunt them down in December, I have a nice excel sheet with address/numbers and some email addresses! And FI's entire family decided to add me on facebook.

KytchynWitche

This is partially my thinking too. Not that we have a particularly large guest list, but I don't want to be scrabbling for addresses the week before the invites have to go out.

jenna8984

Heck yea!! I'm also one of those super organized people so I'll probably address all the thank you cards early and have them ready to roll. I really don't know why it takes some people 2-3 months to send those. 

KytchynWitche

jenna8984 said:

Heck yea!! I'm also one of those super organized people so I'll probably address all the thank you cards early and have them ready to roll. I really don't know why it takes some people 2-3 months to send those. 

This is something I don't understand either. It's really not that hard to write "Thank you for the sandwich press, we'll think of you every time we use it." and drop it in a mailbox, is it?

My sister did not send a single thank you card after her first wedding, which I find totally appalling. My former best friend may well have sent thank you cards to other guests, but she didn't send one to me or my mom. And one of FI's friends did her thank yous by email. Yuck!

Chipmunk415

Agreed- and humor, I've shared this one before...

FI's dad  really, really, really wanted us to invite his best friend and best friends wife to our wedding. We had the room, so agreed. Asked for address to send STD. FFIL and FSMIL INSISTED we give them the STD so they could give it to the best friend and wife when said individuals visited in a week or so (we were not invited down to visit with them, snarky, suspicious me thinks FFIL and FSMIL wanted to feel a bit like a big shot regarding inviting the friend to the wedding, esp based on the half assed ideas/comments I've been getting lately from them). We gave it to them.

Fast forward 3.5 months. FI gets a call from FFIL bitching how the inivtes went out and friends did not get theirs. I immediately took the phone and told FFIL that it was an accident, DUE to the fact that I had requested the address for STD, he REFUSED to give it to me, and in the midst of planning and addressing, I'd plumb forgotten. He got very quiet. 3 mins later, address was texted to us.

PolarBearFitz

I addressed and applied postage to almost all of my STDs and then my mom asked to remove some extra people of the guest list. I didn't have addresses for those few she wanted to remove luckily so no postage wasted there. They will now be sent out this week. Things are getting close and I am starting to feel I need to have more done. AHHHHHHHHHH!

jenniferurs

Word of caution: make sure you double check that addresses are still the same when it's time for invitations to go out. There's a solid amount of time between save the dates and invites and I found that a sizable portion of my guest list had actually moved during that time.

sarahufl

I was able to cut some people off the list that I didnt want there anyway due to my STDs. I told my mom if she wanted to invite my cousins (who I was opposed to having there anyway), I needed their addresses. I have no way of getting them bc we are NOT in communication. She asked my uncle a few times and got no answer. So I told her- "look, they aren't even giving you an address. WHY do they have to be invited?!"

She agreed and I got to cut 10 people! Score!

pumpkinsandturkeys

I read the subject line of this thread and was like, "Sending sexually transmitted diseases? Whaaa?"

My bad haha

Edited: spelling

LizM61409

pumpkinsandturkeys said:

I read the subject line of this thread and was like, "Sending sexually transmitted diseases? Whaaa?"

My bad haha

Edited: spelling

I totally thought that too when I was new on TK!

pumpkinsandturkeys

LizM61409 said:

pumpkinsandturkeys said:

I read the subject line of this thread and was like, "Sending sexually transmitted diseases? Whaaa?"

My bad haha

Edited: spelling

I totally thought that too when I was new on TK!

Haha too funny!

I've definitely been on here long enough to know better. However, I have in the past and currently spend a lot of time studying human sexuality and sexual education, so some things automatically trigger for me as being about sex and sexuality when they're really not haha