BM Dress: to necklace or not?

silver0319

My BMs are wearing the one shoulder dresses in the attached picture. My original thought was to not have them wear a necklace because of the detail on the strap and neckline, but I came across this necklace and thought it might compliment the dress nicely. https://www.etsy.com/listing/77963365/pearl-necklace-wedding-bridesmaids-gifts?ref=favs_view_6

ETA:  Do you think it would look better with or without the necklace?

AddieCake

Your bridesmaids should choose their own jewelry if they even want to wear any.

chibiyui

I not a huge fan of that necklace. Let your BMs choose their own jewelry. It is less for you to worry about.

If you insist on them "wearing" specfic jewelry, you must provide it and it does not count as their gift.

charlotteetier

Hey! I have a one shoulder from David's Bridal and just decided to go without necklace. I found several I loved, but in the midst of everything else my bridesmaids were doing I didn't want to add another item to buy, and I didn't want to buy something either.

I did ask them to all wear pearl earrings, which was something they all owned.

artbyallie

That is a very detailed strap. The necklace would be totally overpowered by it anyway, and it looks like it's not a great quality piece of jewelry anyway. It says 'silver plated' so odds are it's going to bother somebody's skin. Skip it.

doeydo

I would not pair a necklace with that dress.  However, you should just let your BMs wear whatever jewelry they want to.  If you are going to have them wear all matching jewelry that no one will really notice and you will have to squint in pictures to see, then make sure that they are hypoallergenic and you purchase them for the BMs to wear (this does not count as any part of their BM gift).

silver0319

Thanks for the feedback. I should have clarified earlier that the necklace was not going to be a part of their BM gift. 

Anyway, you've convinced me that the floral detail is enough!

kjvaracalli

Hey @silver0319----my girls are doing the same dress but navy!  I think a necklace is too much with the sleeve.  Maybe simple drop earring or bracelet instead. 

majesty318

I really like that dress!

JennyColada

If you're going to buy me jewelry, it better be more than $18. I don't need you to buy me, and make me wear, plastic jewelry. I'd be seriously annoyed if I had to wear that instead of my own, high quality, jewelry.

erinlin25

agree it does not need a necklace; but if they as individuals choose to wear something then great.  I personally would not wear a necklace, but probably some drop earrings and a nice bracelet.

[Deleted User]

I think earrings & maybe a bracelet is plenty

sarahufl

I think the detail up top is enough

Maggie0829

It definitely does not need a necklace.  Honestly I would just let your BMs pick out their own jewelry to wear with the dress.  If some want to wear a necklace then that is there choice.  I know if it was me I probably wouldn't wear anything but my wedding/e-ring because I am not a big jewelry fan.

MobKaz

charlotteetier said:

Hey! I have a one shoulder from David's Bridal and just decided to go without necklace. I found several I loved, but in the midst of everything else my bridesmaids were doing I didn't want to add another item to buy, and I didn't want to buy something either.

I did ask them to all wear pearl earrings, which was something they all owned.

The only thing your BM's should be purchasing is their dress.  Are you requiring them to make purchases beyond that?

jmb3

I think earrings would be great, doesn't need a necklace in my opinion. I also think when it comes to the jewelry the bridesmaids should choose whether they want to wear it or not and should choose their own. Another thought....if you want them to wear the same jewelry you could buy it as their gift?!

Maggie0829

jmb3 said:

I think earrings would be great, doesn't need a necklace in my opinion. I also think when it comes to the jewelry the bridesmaids should choose whether they want to wear it or not and should choose their own. Another thought....if you want them to wear the same jewelry you could buy it as their gift?!

Anything that is meant for the wedding is not a gift.  A gift is something that should have nothing to do with the wedding and geared towards each person individually.

silver0319

Maggie0829 said: jmb3 said: I think earrings would be great, doesn't need a necklace in my opinion. I also think when it comes to the jewelry the bridesmaids should choose whether they want to wear it or not and should choose their own. Another thought....if you want them to wear the same jewelry you could buy it as their gift?! Anything that is meant for the wedding is not a gift.  A gift is something that should have nothing to do with the wedding and geared towards each person individually.


I agree @maggie0829.

Like I mentioned earlier, I decided against the necklace. Had I decided for them to wear any sort of jewelry, I would have purchased it for them but not as part of their BM gift.