Anyone else seen this?
Zola"A New Kind of Wedding Registry"
All In One Place:
Register for products, experiences, services, honeymoon funds, as well as anything from any store.
Group Gifting:
Now you can register for things you really want, and have friends and family contribute towards a group gift.
I can't even...
I want to go to their Facebook page and let all the brides going apeshit crazy over how wonderful this idea is know how TACKY this idea is.
BLECK!!
Re: Zola Website/FB
A registry is a passive suggestion on what items the bride and groom need. Requesting money for your honey fund is incredibly rude 'Here fund my optional vacation!!!!' It screams gift grabby ridiculousness and is just crappy manners in the realm of gift etiquette.
I don't care to have a shower at all but they are fun for some and let's face it a tradition for most.
Anyway...
I believe there was a thread on here about Zola and some girl not getting the things that were purchased for her from there. I could be wrong but it sounds incredibly familiar and I am too lazy today to go searching for it. So not only is it tacky but it may actually be somewhat of a scam.
Second bolded - Nope, didn't say anything about only young people having showers. I just said not everyone is older and more established as you were stating. You lumped everyone in to one general statement or observation of your own that isn't quite true. I was merely playing the other side of that whole judgement of 'weddings these days' you made.
Third bolded - I said need and I meant it. The bride and groom can decide on whatever they need themselves to create a household. I didn't state anything about standing mixers or food processors. Not sure why you inferred this in what I wrote as there was no mention of either.
Fourth and final - I'm pretty sure you don't give an eff about other people in general but that's just a hunch. In any case I know plenty of people who have fun at showers and enjoy them. Some don't. I even stated that I personally don't care for them. Not sure what you are arguing here.
Still stands that honey funds and asking for straight up money is tacky. If you choose to give money and never buy a gift that's all your choice. If you have a honey fund or ask for cash donations then you're rude.
Yeah, I saw that on Facebook too.
Or some idiot bride/person squee'ing "These are the lowest fees I've seen!!"
*gag*
But yeah sure...that's not tacky in the slightest. Probably should just have someone carry a sign down the aisle stating 'They are already married this is just for show!' Classy.
Some of us actually had fun putting together a wedding registry. Yeah, I was an older bride (36), and my husband had been married before, but WTF? If people didn't give us jack shit off our registry, we didn't give a flying flip. He and I had fun spending time together dreaming about things we knew we wouldn't get, and imagining our "future home". Oh, and, you know, just being with one another.
So, thanks for pissing on my leg and telling me that it's raining. Neither he NOR I viewed our registry as a "poor use of energy".
I don't know @mobkaz, we're playing the odds that we will not be making any claim with our wedding insurance company so I'm not too worried about it. I guess I'll cross that hurricane battered bridge when and if, on the minuscule chance we cancel our wedding due to extreme weather and our resort refuses to refund our deposit, then. The odds really are in our favor though.
Some of us actually had fun putting together a wedding registry. Yeah, I was an older bride (36), and my husband had been married before, but WTF? If people didn't give us jack shit off our registry, we didn't give a flying flip. He and I had fun spending time together dreaming about things we knew we wouldn't get, and imagining our "future home". Oh, and, you know, just being with one another.
So, thanks for pissing on my leg and telling me that it's raining. Neither he NOR I viewed our registry as a "poor use of energy".
@shaylagirl, instead of getting all butthurt, try reading. Concerning oneself over their own registry is a fine use of one's time and energy if that's what they're in to. Worrying oneself over SOMEONE ELSE'S registry is not.
Please point out in your quoted statement (which is why I pulled it to quote it) where you said "someone else's registry".
Oh. That's right. Because you didn't.
You could just have a party in Mexico celebrating your marriage and invite your close family and friends. You don't have to parade it out as your wedding because you already had one.
You have no right to call anyone cowardly unless you have in fact informed ALL of your guests that you are already married. You are incredibly cowardly for not doing so considering it is the truth. You're also rude and a terrible friend to these people for lying to their faces so you can get attention at your PPD.
I think a poor use of energy is lying to the people you love and throwing a fake event to boost your need for attention.
People who hide, connive, and mislead their friends have no place in my friendship world. We wouldn't be friends because I perceive you as a liar. Obviously this is based on one scenario out of many in your life. Hell it may be the only lie you have ever told, I don't know. I am actually a really understanding person with those that I trust. I also give my trust straight out and then if people prove me wrong to trust them then I assess whether the friendship is worth repairing or letting go of.
If someone lied to me and I shelled out money to go to a DW of someone already married, I would personally consider that a friendship ending move on their part. Because if someone doesn't trust me enough to tell me that up front then why should I be a part of their little ceremony anyway?
I just really have a thing against liars and I perceive you as a liar. I am probably more judgmental of you because of that perception. Obviously I know little of you considering I just read your notes on a wedding forum so it is what it is.
You may disagree that you haven't gotten married yet but you will have before Mexico and all you're doing is a fake ceremony. It may have huge meaning to you and if it does then that's great. I wish you a happy healthy marriage (no sarcasm here I honestly wish that for anyone committing to a life together). I just still think lying and throwing a PPD sucks.
If you were so open and not concerned about things going 'sideways' then you would tell all your guests you are legally already married. The fact that you do not wish to be open with that information makes it manipulative and deceitful. Manipulative in not telling people so they will in fact show up and deceitful because you aren't telling them the whole truth.
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(a) hell of (a).... (Streets.) : That's a hella long way to Vegas.
Read the previous posts where women were commenting that THIS particular website charges the lowest fees they've seen?
Sooooo, yeah. Website. Fees. Rude to gift-givers.
Thank you for your reading comprehension fail.
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1 [lahy] Show IPAYou are a liar and you are lying to people by omitting the truth of the legal status of your state of marriage.
Here's one for your hypothetical books: If you were asked in a court room if you were married or not you would have to say yes. You couldn't say well we haven't had a ceremony in Mexico yet and I just don't think the papers I signed count. Mexico is not your wedding it is a fake ceremony you are having to indulge the fact that you want one.