I am well on my way of planning my wedding now. I had gotten all my girls together and we went to a bridal expo where it was a you understood that I want them all to be bridesmaids. I previously asked them independently if they would be interested, but never formally asked them. Do many people formally ask their friends or do something cute, or give them a pre bridesmaids gift as a token (outside of the bridesmaid gift during the week/day of the wedding)? We still need to get bridesmaids dresses so we will have a few more wedding outings together. What should I do? I know being a bridesmaid is a big responsibility and especially since I'm having a DW. At this point, the girls are paying their own way in airfare and hotel, is that bad? I am planning to give them a nice bridesmaid gift once the wedding gets here but I am just not sure what the norm is before hand. Any advice/recommendations would be helpful! Thank you!