bridesmaid dresses - do your BMs pick?

navypeach15

Thanks for answering my Q.

huskypuppy14

You are allowed to pick the dress as long as it's in the bridesmaid's budget. You can't make them get specific shoes, unless you are going to pay for them. 

navypeach15

So how do I tell her without sounding demanding? A

LadyMillil

1) Ask for the budget

2) Ask if there are any styles they are uncomfortable in

3) Go shopping together OR pick out styles and send pics to bridesmaid to get feedback OR ask bridesmaids to send you pictures of dresses they like

4) Narrow down the options. Make sure all bridesmaids try them on to eliminate anything that doesn't work with their body type

5) If everyone agrees on the same dress, Congratulations you've found the bridesmaid dress

If there are disagreements on the dress, repeat these steps OR do mismatched dresses

As I bridesmaid I would expect that the bride will pick out the dress for me. However, I would also expect the bride to take my budget and comfort into consideration when picking the dress.

clg1213

I sent mine an email.  I'd previously "shown" them the dress online (i'd seen on in person) and they all approved.  So I sent a follow-up email saying i did pick the dress and with instructions on how to order thieird

lovesclimbing

My mom sewed the BM dresses.  All the BMs saw the pattern beforehand and liked the dress.

KittyKaty20

I have been in four weddings, and my opinion/budget was not asked/considered in three of them. The one bride who DID ask only requested we wear some shade of blue, and the venue was an ornate building in early January-so she thought a longer dress would be appropriate.

The dress I got to choose is the ONLY one of them I have worn more than once. (And it was only $35!)

So, I had a color I wanted for my bridesmaids, I had a general length, and since the color wasn't black, navy, or gray, I wanted to keep it under $100 initially.

The BMs all tried on the dress we loved in the pics, and none of us loved it, and they found one the perfect length, color, design, fabric that went a bit above budget. Now we have to figure shoes, accessories...

CMGragain

Why the DD?  It is very rude to delete your original post.  Other ladies have taken their time to help you.  You won't make many friend here if you do this.

navypeach15

CMGragarian, 

I appreciate the advice these ladies have suggested for my inquiry. I decided to delete the original post as I'm a bit paranoid a certain individual may come across it (this is public after all). However, the topic I've provided is pretty much the question I'm asking. Straight to the point with no need for details. 

The responses provided have been more than helpful, and they have given me better insight on my future choices. I edited this post prior to the second response, and only a few (like 5) people saw my posts prior to the edit. So, I'm not sure how I've been rude in this manner.

HisGirlFriday13

First of all, WHY DID NO ONE QUOTE OP?!

Second, it's rude to delete even if your question has been answered because your question and the answers may help someone else.

CMGragain

Deleting your original posts makes many people angry.  Just so you know.  I suggest you don't do this again.
Very rude!