I know variations of this have been asked before, but I'm going to ask for opinions on my situation. Our wedding will be 3.5 hours away from the city where we live. I work on a team with 25 other people, almost all of whom have significant others or spouses. My director (big boss) and one person that I work closely with on a daily basis are constantly asking me wedding related questions and offering to do things to help with my wedding. I appreciate the offers, but I politely tell them it's covered. I'm starting to think that they expect to be invited. I wasn't going to invite anyone from work because if I invite one person, I would feel bad if I didn't invite them all. My manager got married last year and only invited his direct reports and a select few others, and I know it left a sour taste for some people.
I've read about inviting in circles, which I could see applying to this situation if the people expecting to be invited were in the same circle, but they're not. One is a boss and one is a peer. Am I overthinking this? Do I just continue to bean dip and not encourage wedding talk at work?