And so it begins.... didn't want a bridal shower and MOH and FI were ok with that. But then FI's family seemed crushed, so after FI talked to me, I reversed course, feeling that I could take one for the team.
Went to set up a registry this weekend, but the experience was lousy. Shower will be a kitchen theme and the only thing I asked was that guests bring a recipe to share with me. FI and I really do not need anything and I'm just not into getting a bunch of stuff. Plus we're hosting an OOS wedding, so after having everyone travel and pay for lodging, etc, I think it's obnoxious to then have a huge registry which should just be titled "Gimme Gimme". However, I understand MOH when she says, but people want to get a gift too so you need to choose some items. So we're wandering around the store and I'm trying to carefully choose items that are not too expensive and we would actually need / use / want. Not easy and she kept pushing to me scan a million little things, which I deleted once I got home. The sales associates acted like they couldn't be bothered, botched the account set up (which led to an hour on the phone the next day to sort out) and also I found out that they checked the box for Giftcards when I specifically asked them not to. Couldn't help myself and commented how rude and tacky it is to ask for money. Sigh. I had hoped it'd be a fun experience but not so much
Additionally, the questions are now streaming in from FI's parents asking if so and so is invited, etc. Hmm, well if they didn't receive a STD, I guess not, huh? I give exactly zero f's, but am hearing already that one aunt is upset that her adult children aren't invited, despite the explanation that we're having a small (under 50 ppl) wedding and including those that are part of our everyday lives and are closest to. I asked FI not to pass on these little tidbits from his side anymore since it's just stressful.
Ok, end of whiny rant.