Go ask your mother. / vent

lizandmark2014

Ok, I was taught that if you had a wedding question you asked your mom. ( how to get measured for a tux, where the block of rooms is ect.) If she did not have the answer you asked the MOB, bridesmaid or MOG.

Why do so many people ask the bride?
Or is this just my perception?

firebabe6519

I think it varies from person to person. I would never ask or expect others to ask my family / parents. That is where having a coordinator can be helpful.

HisGirlFriday13

I think it depends on the query. WR stuff (hotel blocks), I would ask the bride and groom. I wouldn't assume their parents know.

cruffino

I got the bulk of the questions because I did the bulk of the planning. Towards the end I was ready to snap, but I managed to hold it together!

climbingsingle

I would always ask the bride or groom. And I would imagine most would ask me since I'm the one doing all the planning. However, I'm sure some of my relatives might ask my mom about room blocks. 

emmyg65

Yep, I got most of the questions. It was a little irritating, but ultimately not a big deal.

AddieCake

I would ask the bride and groom unless it was their parents I was close to and not them. And if that were the case, I would wonder why I was invited to that wedding b/c I'm in the camp that finds it ridiculous when couples have to invite people they don't really know b/c they are friends or coworkers of their parents.

lizandmark2014

Thank you ladies for putting my nerves at ease; and giving me perspective. You are always helpful.

doeydo

Hah, I have never heard of this being a 'thing'.  My mom knows almost nothing (detail wise, I mean) about my sister's upcoming wedding this Summer.  Also, I wouldn't be comfortable asking the MOH, etc. because I don't know them.  Why would I not just ask my own sister whatever it is I need to know about the wedding when I talk to her?    

selenathegreat

Hahaha...the only question either of our moms could answer is the date and location. I wish my mom were more involved but oh well.

FiancB

If someone asked my mom anything they'd be SOL because she doesn't know/give a crap about anything. And only one of my BMs is particularly involved in planning but even then, I'm still doing all the planning myself. 

I think it's fine. I would ask the bride most of the questions and expect people to do the same to me. The only time that's not okay IMO is the day of the wedding- then you should leave the bride alone as much as possible. 

SBmini

My mom doesn't know much about what is going on either. If it is a shower question, her or my MOH are the people to go to, anything else- it is all me. I actually got upset when one of my fiance's groomsmen started relaying questions for me through my fiance. If you want to know if something is OK by me, just ask me!

zitiqueen

It's times like these that I wish Kristen789 was still around. Hers would be an entertaining response.

arrippa

zitiqueen said:

It's times like these that I wish Kristen789 was still around. Hers would be an entertaining response.

I am not convinced that Around the Block and Kristin789 are not the same person.