walking down the aisle

Psych819

I  first posted this to the etiquette board but it probably makes more sense for here.

My dad has recently passed and now I’m not sure who will walk me down the aisle. My brothers suggested my oldest brother walking me part of the way then meeting my middle brother who would walk me part of the way. My twin would be the last to walk me. I find this sweet but also feel like it is a bit much.  I think the idea I fair since I wouldn't know how to pick one brother over another. However, I was thinking of my mom doing it possibly. What do you guys think of this idea? I have never seen or heard of this before. Just looking for some opinions on this. 

Maggie0829

I think if you have a decent length aisle having each of your brothers walk you down would be very nice.  I also think it would be nice to have your Mom walk you down as well.  You, of course, could just walk down solo if you are comfortable with that.

It really all depends on what you are comfortable with.  There is no right or wrong.

Psych819

I never even thought of the size of the aisle, thank you for bringing that up. I will have to take time and think about it. Right now I feel like everyone is just so worried about me not feeling alone walking down the aisle

doeydo

It is really up to you whether you want your brother(s) to escort you, your mother, someone else, or no one at all.  

CMGragain

If you want to follow tradition, your nearest male relative walks you.  I had my father's brother.  You might also select your eldest brother.  You don't have to follow tradition, though.

Psych819

Thank you ladies. I appreciate the feedback 

3ringnecklace

Even though my father is alive and will be attending the wedding, I am having my Mom walk me down the aisle. My parents divorced when I was 14 and I don't have a close relationship with my father. My Mom earned the right and my dad did not. I'm even doing the first dance with my Mom. I talked to my father about it just to give him a heads up and he said that he will respect my wishes. As long as people are there at your wedding and they love and support you, no one should give you flack for choosing one person over the other.

bremnerschmitz

I like both your ideas, I definitely think taking time to think about what will be the most meaningful to you is a good idea.

Just to throw out another idea, if the aisle is big enough you could always have 2 people walk you.  My father was never present in my life and also passed away a couple years ago, so I will be having my mom and my grandpa walk me, one on each side.  

If you wanted to and it works for the aisle, you could even have two brothers start walking you, and then have your other bother and mom take over midway through. Sure, that could kinda be overkill, but if it's meaningful for you go for it.  I highly doubt anyone in your life would mind, no matter how you go about it.  

Bubblegum5586

Both ideas sound very nice! I personally would choose your mom if you are close to her, just as the logistics seems easier and she did raise you.