Sigh...I think I need a new dress

Blergbot

So I got my dress online, final sale. It was only $200, so if it didn't work out I figured I'd just resell it. When I first tried it on it took a lot of work to zip up, but one of my BMs made it happen. I wasn't crazy bowled over by the dress, but it was pretty and I liked it enough. I figured I would try to lose some weight and then see where I stood with it. Cut to a few months later...I have lost a little weight, but it seems to just be in the hip area/lower tummy. Where I need to lose weight is just under the bust and the bust itself. I'm a DDD. I realized I couldn't fit comfortably in the dress, even with spanx, and that I wasn't really in love with it. Anyway, this is more of a vent than anything, but any words of wisdom are welcome.

Blergbot

The pic is from when I first tried it on, but nothing much has changed.

CMGragain

I think it is a lovely dress!  Try accessorizing it with a triple strand pearl necklace that would draw the eye away from your cleavage.  It isn't as bad as you think.  A good seamstress could give you another quarter to half an inch on the top.  I really like the diagonal lines of the ruffles.

Blergbot

Thank you! I may take it to a seamstress before giving up on it.

doeydo

There are minimizer bras out there that might help it fit a little better, though I can't vouch for them because I have never tried one on (why minimize these bad boys, am I right?).

flyingfoxes

I think it's a pretty dress too - I agree that a seamstress may be able to let it out a bit for you, or maybe a body shaper could bring you in just a bit?  Or if you don't really love it, you could probably sell it to get at least some of your money back.  

Sugargirl1019

CMGragain said:

I think it is a lovely dress!  Try accessorizing it with a triple strand pearl necklace that would draw the eye away from your cleavage.  It isn't as bad as you think.  A good seamstress could give you another quarter to half an inch on the top.  I really like the diagonal lines of the ruffles.

This. Beautiful!

Dignity100

If you're not in love with the dress, you really should get one you are in love with.

If you do love the dress but are just frustrated about fit - go to a seamstress and see what magic they can work.

lookame3639

You could try a minimizing bra or a seamstress could let the top out. If your concerned about your cleavage a seamstress could also bring to top up a little. If you aren't happy with the way it fits around your waist you could try shape wear to bring your waist in or again a seamstress could let it out and you could also add a belt or sash .

If you feel very uncomfortable in the dress and don't like theway it is on you then you may want to go back to the drawing board and see about finding a new dress.

LDay2014

@doeydo

Agreed!!! I love what my mama gave me (and so does FI)!

I had a reduction when I was 19, and they grew back...helllllloooo H cup!

OP, I think the dress is perfectly lovely but if you're uncomfortable then definitely try a minimizer bra or check with a seamstress as to what options they might suggest.

Off topic...anyone notice that you go to a seamstress when your 'seams stress'? Just chuckled a little bit at that.

Maggie0829

I actually think you look great in the dress.  I wouldn't give up on it quite yet.  Go to a seamstress and see what they have to say.  I also think that if you added a blingy belt and some jewelry and a veil/headpiece you may like it a lot more.  It is amazing what accessories can do to make a so-so dress THE dress.

But if you truly do not love it, then put it up for sale and start over.  Not the end of the world, it happens to many.

wandajune6

There are 2 approaches:

1. If you want an excuse for a new dress (you sound very lukewarm about it), the fit is horrible and you absolutely must find something new. Plus, for $200 it should be pretty easy to avoid losing a lot of money (impressive deal, btw!)

2. If you want it to work, a good tailor or some great shapewear should be able to fix it. A well-structured corset/longline bra-type thing should be able to get you to a point where you're more comfortable. As someone similarly endowed, I personally decided to use a hardcore minimizer for my wedding dress. It wasn't a statement about style or anything like that - I just figured that I could avoid some very expensive alterations by reigning the girls in a bit!

pinkshorts27

Dignity100 that is a little unfair. I am rarely in love with clothing. I am generally a "good enough" type of person. I am tired of hearing I must be "in love" with my dress because that simply won't happen. 

Though I agree she seems down on the dress. If you aren't happy, maybe find something you are happy with. If you like the dress and not the fit, a seamstress would be able to help I'm sure.

mollyringwald15

I think you look lovely and are being hard on yourself. However, I agree that if you aren't happy or comfortable you should start to look for a different dress. Maybe if you try on a few others you will see your current dress in a different light?

climbingsingle

I agree that it's a lovely dress. However, you should have something that you feel amazing in. 

Blergbot

Thanks all! I've got some thinking to do...good thing the wedding isn't until October!

Lowell14

LDay2014 said:

@doeydo

Agreed!!! I love what my mama gave me (and so does FI)!

I had a reduction when I was 19, and they grew back...helllllloooo H cup!

I don't mean to go off topic but @LDay2014 I am SOOO glad I'm not the only person who had a reduction (at 19) and they grew back...Hello G cup!!

Back on topic; the dress is really pretty,but if its not 100% love, you should find something you put on and never want to take off

flyingfoxes

Holy cow at you ladies' huge boobs!  I get sick of my DDs, I can't imagine any bigger! 

 

CMGragain

Be happy with what God gave you.  I lost my right breast to advanced cancer, and had reconstruction.  The surgeon did a great job!  Them I had my left one reduced and lifted so they matched.  It took a year, and it was painful, but I'm still here and cancer free.  I can even wear a bathing suit (groan) and I look normal.
Ladies, do get those mammograms when you are of age.

Lowell14

CMGragain said:

Be happy with what God gave you.  I lost my right breast to advanced cancer, and had reconstruction.  The surgeon did a great job!  Them I had my left one reduced and lifted so they matched.  It took a year, and it was painful, but I'm still here and cancer free.  I can even wear a bathing suit (groan) and I look normal.
Ladies, do get those mammograms when you are of age.

@CMGragain thank you for that perspective. and I'm glad to hear you are cancer-free...:)