Will you be my alibi?

JasperandOpal

Because I might murder my fiancé.

He just texted me to let me know that he is planning on returning his suit.  This is the fourth suit he has purchased and returned in the last month.  Every time he loves loves loves the suit and then two days later he hates it.  This time, he says the suit doesn't match our wedding colors.  Its a dark grey, almost black suit.  Our wedding colors are olive/dark greens and copper/bronze/brown.  That said, I have told him he doesn't need to wear the wedding colors in any way if he doesn't want to and the colors are really just for decorations, invitations, etc. because I will be wearing white and my bridesmaid will be wearing whatever she wants within a range of colors.  

He says green and black/grey don't match AND they aren't fancy enough.  This has been a consistent problem. Nothing is fancy enough for him.  I'm beginning to dread what he will think of my second hand simple wedding dress!  

Luckily, we aren't getting married until October so he has time to find a suit.  That said, if I have to go through seven more months of him buying and returning suits, well... see the title.

Sugargirl1019

Oh my goodness. I laughed and giggled, because my FI is so similar. No advice, just hugs! Come here to vent all you want!

JasperandOpal

Glad to know its not just mine! We have been together for eight years but planning a wedding has definitely brought out the tiny pretty princess (prince? is there a male equivalent?) he had hiding inside him.   

hikebikebemerry

You should tell him that the next decision he makes will be the FINAL.  (Clearly you know him better, so you know how he'd react.)  My FI is SUPER indecisive- so with all things wedding, we talk, make a decision together, and don't go back on our decisions.  It has saved a lot of hassle, and even though we're still 8+ months out, it has made the whole experience more enjoyable.

Perhaps have him get swatches of your wedding colors, and write down all of the things that he didn't like about the other suits; then he can talk to one of the consultants about where to go from there.

I feel your pain.

phira

My partner was worried about tie shopping ... until I told him that he could wear a tie he already owned and I wouldn't care. Not like, "I don't care, whatever, snore, no one's gonna be looking at you." More like, "I'm going to think you look crazy handsome, and it won't bother me even a little if you don't shell out the dough for a new tie."

For the sake of your sanity, maybe just focus on the fact that he'll EVENTUALLY pick a suit (new or already in his closet) and will not show up to the wedding nekkid.