When we mailed our invitations a couple weeks ago, we were actually hoping to get a few declines. Our guest list was right at the max for our venue, and we were hoping to eliminate maybe 2 tables to open up some more space. However, some of the people who have declined so far have really blindsided us. Fiance's uncle, who is like a big brother to him, originally declined because of our "no children" policy, which we thought was extremely selfish. He's since changed his mind, but it still caused us a lot of stress. Now, I've found out that 3 out of the 4 grandparents I still have living are not able to make it. My maternal grandmother still hasn't RSVP'd, but she lives 6 hours away and is unable to drive, so I'm not sure if she will be there either. It's hard for me to imagine my wedding without my grandparents there. The sad part is that for the ones who are no longer with us, I know they'd drop everything to be there for us on our wedding day. Sometimes, it seems like people don't realize this is a wedding. They act like we are having a barbecue just because and that it's not a big deal if they don't show. Ugh