Should i do STD?

lookame3639

10 guests, parents, our kids and one or two friends. Wedding is in November 2 weekends before Thanksgiving weekend and is about an hour - an hour and a half away.

I'm curious with such a small group should we send out save the dates? There are plenty of cabin rental places in the area and where we are getting married is actually a nice old castle turned bed and breakfast (FI and I and the kiddos actually booked our cabin/room with the castle) i guess I'm thinking in terms of our parents if they want to stay nearby.

AddieCake

There is no rule on who should or shouldn't send out STDs other than not to do it if you have less than 6 months before the wedding. It's a personal choice. Do you want to send them? Is it in the budget? 

lookame3639

I have a few cards left from our print your own invitations that i could print up a quickie hey our date is x and at y location. I really feel FI mom needs to know ASAP though so she can work out a driving situation/how she's going to get there. If we were inviting our siblings she could get a ride with FI brother but if we invited them we have to invite their kids and by the time it's all said and done with we've run into more people than we could afford to host. Plus there are some issues we both have had with both our sisters...

mlg78

Wouldn't FI's mom know already? Isn't this a common conversation topic, "Oh, hey, Mom...I'm getting married on November XX." STDs seem like a waste for such a tiny wedding...

lookame3639

We've been engaged for several years, we've planned dates but then those have fallen through due to mainly financial issues. I asked him if he had told his parents last night nd he stated he hadnt talked to them even though the date and venue have been booked for roughly 2 weeks now, he also works 2 jobs so that could be the lack of communication between them and I dont usually communicate with them very often. His mom can be rather difficult to get ahold of as well due to mainy issues that I wont put here.

AddieCake

I would be pretty annoyed if I was his mom and I found out the wedding date via a Save the Date.

mlg78

For under 15 or so guests you should just use word of mouth...and your FI needs to get on the ball and tell his parents. That's crap.

huskypuppy14

@ AddieL73 I'm just playing devil's advocate because I feel the same way, and my parents and FI parents would be pissed if the first time they knew of the date was via a STD. However, not everyone is as close to their parents.

OP I would just use word of mouth or an email to all your guests telling them the date and information for lodging.

Megalega14

save the $$  !! I'm sure you will be talking to everyone soon, just mention it then.. or call them and gush about how happy you are to be having the date set!!

we're inviting 200 people and still not sending them, i emailed or texted most people to give them a heads up, but most of our friends and family know about it without spending all the extra money.

JennyColada

http://forums.theknot.com/discussion/1013450/do-i-need-stds#latest

I've decided that I will not be doing STDs.

lookame3639

We decided against STD. FI got a hold of his dad but is stilltrying to get a hold of his mom...

MollyandD

I am not doing them. A friend had offered to do them for me free (she does things like that at work), so I didn't budget them. I found out a little too late that she would not be able to anymore. It seemed easier to just let the out of town guests know by phone or e-mail. We had pretty much told them when we got engaged so they could book flights anyway.