Stolen from another board -- How many serious relationships have you & your FI had?

jenna8984

FI is my 3rd. I was with someone from 18-21 and 22-25. 

I'm his 2nd. He was with someone from 20-23. We met each other when we were both 26.

cruffino

We are each other's second serious relationship. We both had relationships lasting approx 5 yrs before meeting one another. We have had numerous non-serious dating stuff thrown in the mix. I'm 36 and DH is 35.

JCbride2015

monkeysip said:

JCBride2014 said:

We are each other's first serious relationship.  We've been together since high school.  We will be 29 and 27 when we get married next year.

I really hate when people tell me I should experiment and date other men.  I got lucky on the first shot, I don't feel the need to walk away from something great just to have a higher "number."

This is me too.  We dated for over 10 years and married at 26.  Certainly you shouldn't stay together with someone just because you get comfortable and don't want to find anyone else, but if you're truly happy with that person, why would you throw that away so that you can say you've tried out other guys?  It always bothered me when people said that, but no one close to me ever said that because they knew how happy we made each other.

I got the experimentation comments earlier on in our relationship, right around the time I was graduating high school and heading to college.  A lot of friends kept saying, "But don't you want to be single during college?  There are all these new guys to meet!"  But I knew that what Fi and I had was wonderful, and there was no need to give up a supportive relationship so that I could have some crazy sowing my wild oats college years.

I know most people need to wait and search for love, and get their heart broken, and that's definitely a part of growing up that I just missed.  But I think Fi and I got incredibly lucky very early on, and I never wanted to mess with that.

SammiNJonni

FI is my third serious relationship. We were together all through HS but I don't know if I would count that as serious. I met my ex at 18 got married at 20 and divorced a year later and had a live in boyfriend for 2 years after that.

I am FI's first serious relationship all his other relationships were short flings or a few months of dating.

Sugargirl1019

I had one 2-year relationship in HS that I would classify as serious, and then 2 really stupid regret it 4 month old ish relationships. I met FI the first year of college, and we are 6 yrs happily together :-)

I am FIs first everything. Yes, first kiss too!!

KytchynWitche

I'm pretty intense, and I don't really do casual relationships, so pretty much all my relationships have been serious. I'd say 5 for me, making FI my 6th.

FI did date someone before me, but it was very casual. I'm his first serious relationship.

Assuming we don't have to postpone the wedding, he will turn 29 three days before we get married, and I'll turn 29 the day after.

climbingsingle

FI is my 5th serious relationship, including my first love/high school boyfriend. I believe it's the same number for him. We're 33 and 40. 

loro929

FI is my 3rd serious relationship (including my highschool boyfriend (on and off for way too long) and one late/post-college boyfriend, approximately 1.5 years). I guess I would be my FIs 3rd serious relationship too, his first being a 9-year first love/highschool girlfriend, and 2nd being a two-year mostly long-distance relationship and now me, we have been together for almost 4 years now. We are 26 and 32.

cupcait927

I think FI would consider me to be his second serious relationship. He dated his ex for a total of 9 years (dated in high school, broke up while he was in college, and then got back together again for 5 years straight after he graduated college). He did date a girl on and off in college and his parents had met her and got to know her but I'm not sure how serious he'd consider that relationship. I had two very serious relationships before FI - one was in high school and college (glad I didn't marry him!) and the other was for two years before I met FI.

emmaaa

We are both eachother's first serious relationship. We both dated other people in high school but never had very long or serious relationships. We started dating in high school and did not get engaged until I finished college.

We have people tell us we're too young to get married quite a bit. Even though we have been together almost six years and live together for two. I'll be 24 and he will be 23 (almost 24) when we get married.

LabLove86

BF and I each had one serious relationship before we met. Both of the relationships for us were relationships where we 'needed' the other person for whatever reason. 

Its nice to be in a relationship for the right reasons now - and it feels so much different! We don't 'need' each other at all - we are both responsible, self-sufficient adults. We are together because we love each other and we want to be together.

When we met I was 27, he was 30.

Couggal12

We are both each other's 2nd serious relationship. I dated my exBF 17  until I was 21, and started dating FI when I was 22. FI dated someone for a few years before we began dating.

Drewsgirl31

I dated a lot but he's my 3rd serious relationship. I don't fully count my first as I was 15 but we were together for about 2 years and I had my daughter with him. My 2nd one was about a year and a half and a year of that he was stationed overseas and I'm celebrating our 6th anniversary this week and our 5th wedding anniversary in June.

I am his 3rd serious relationship. He dated a girl in high school for a few years, was married a year later for almost 7 years and then met me and we've been together since that marriage ended.

Maggie0829

H is my first serious relationship (been together almost 12 years).  H had a girlfriend back in HS before we started dating that he saw for about a year.  He wouldn't really call it a serious relationship, because he would only see her maybe once or twice a month and they were more casual about about "relationship rules."

abrewer5

We're each other's first (and only) serious relationship. We've been together since 10th grade, so over 8 years.

McCMal

I would say we are both each other's first serious relationship. I never dated anyone I couldn't see marrying, so I either scared them off or left them within a few months. FI had a 4 year relationship with a gal who was secretly gay, and only kept him around to get her parents off her back. FI is a very, very patient person, but he says it was more of a friendship arrangement. 

Because I haven't had a serious relationship, and my FI is a little older, my family accused me of moving to fast, and him of just being with me to not be lonely. Well, we had that conversation early on, so we know this is the real deal. My family is now on the same page and loves my FI.

I am 22, my FI is 27.

Didn't stop my aunt (Who has met my FI twice) from telling me this weekend that I was just settling, and would be unhappy in ten years because my FI will only get worse with age. This came out after she nit picked my entire wedding plan, our home, and finally our relationship. 

Belthil

H is my second big relationship and i believe I'm his 4th. We were both 27 when we got married