So, I went off and got married this weekend and had an absolutely fabulous time but some drama created by the MOG at the rehearsal is still haunting us.
Some background - we decided not to have the MOG or any sets of grandparents walk down the aisle but we did have my brother escort my mother to her seat in the processional. All parents and grandparents had reserved seats in the front row and were seated after all the guests were but before the processional began and did not walk down the aisle.
Apparently because in her other sons weddings she walked down the aisle my now MIL assumed that she would be walking down the aisle and threw a massive fit when my DOC explained who we had chosen to take part in the processional. Rather than voice her hurt feelings or opinions to my DH and myself she sat down with her boyfriend and mother and proceeded to badmouth her opinions. When the practicing of the processional actually began she stormed out of the rehearsal.
When I realized what had happened (because at the time I was in a happy wedding fog) I thought she might have been embarrassed by not knowing this information beforehand so I relented and said she could walk down the aisle after the groomsmen (her sons) and before the bridesmaids. This was not good enough for her and she said it was disrespectful to her to make her walk down alone. Again I conceded and said she could walk down with her mother. I guess this was an even worse idea as she never even replied.
Since this happened on Friday, and basically all communications were through my DOC and DH, she has not spoken to me. That's right, my MIL did not speak to me at my rehearsal dinner, did not show up to get ready for the wedding, ignored my texts re-iterating that she was invited, did not speak to my at my wedding nor at the brunch the next day. I tried multiple times to communicate with her, I approached her during our pre-ceremony pictures and she walked away, when I visited her table during the reception she turned away from me and when I said "good morning" to her at brunch she began speaking to someone else.
This morning my DH and I woke up to passive aggressive FB messages from her with this link (http://www.ehow.com/info_8587364_wedding-etiquette-seating-mothers.html). My husband and I are on the same page, we paid for our own wedding and decided what fit best for us was to not have her walk down the aisle. We think we did everything we could to pacify her and be the adults but she is refusing to reciprocate this. Thoughts?