Flirting with disaster

emmaaa

I would have a panic attack if my FI pulled this.

http://news.yahoo.com/blogs/trending-now/man-surprises-bride-to-be-with-same-day-wedding-180536178.html?vp=1

SBmini

Yeah, no. 

chibiyui

If FI proposed and then said "Surprise, we're getting married today!" I'd be all "WOAH. SLOW YOUR MOTHERFUCKING ROLL" and be very much not married at the end of the day.

Cookie Pusher

FI would be in for a rude awakening at the altar if he tried this. Hell to the N-O!

HisGirlFriday13

I don't get the appeal of this. If you're the bride, you miss out on all the fun of planning and anticipating.

For me, our engagement was a period for me and DH to grow as a couple, to grow in our faith, and to mentally and emotionally and spiritually prepare for our marriage.

I asked a guy friend of mine about this and he said, 'If I could have gotten married without the planning and the raging crazy psycho bitch my wife became, I would have done it in a heartbeat.'

That explains a huge chunk of the marital problems they're currently having.

KeptInStitches

I'd be all like "Run Forrest run!" and I wouldn't be listening to "Stop."

emmaaa

1. My FI would HATE planning everything by himself. He is very laid back and therefore would not understand how quickly some things are done. He would literally be miserable.

2. I am too hands on to just have my wedding planned for me.

I agree with you, @HisGirlFriday13, being engaged has been a great step in our relationship and in preparing for marriage. Skipping the whole engagement step could really lead to furhter issues.

climbingsingle

My photographer shot a wedding like this on New Year's Eve. 

CaliMel11

I wouldn't like this at all. I especially don't like that the poor guests had no idea what they were showing up for!
I would be kind of upset if no one told me I was showing up for a wedding instead of an engagement party!

emmaaa

@CaliMel11 I thought the same thing about the guests! I would be upset if I were them. I don't understand why it had to be a surprise for them too?

CaliMel11

eg72 said:

@CaliMel11 I thought the same thing about the guests! I would be upset if I were them. I don't understand why it had to be a surprise for them too?

I guess that he was worried that someone would spill the beans? But I just really think it's so rude to do that to guests! Ugh.

Peaseblossom55

I have had so much fun planning our day I would be pretty upset if I didn't get a chance to plan our wedding day.  I would hope someone about to marry me would realize this and not do this.... lol

Cokezerofreak

I was all for getting married in Vegas after he proposed there last year.  Only excuse FI could come up with and I agreed with was that our dogs weren't there.