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What random small thing (that shouldn't be stressful) caused the most stress?

For me, it's been finding someone to do hair. I'm planning this wedding in my fiance's hometown, which is a small town on the outskirts of the suburbs, about 45 minutes from the big city. I've tried asking FMIL, searching online, etc. but all the salons in the area are RIDICULOUSLY expensive! They are charging the same prices as my friend getting married this month is paying--and she is going with someone from a high end salon in the downtown of a large urban city. I don't have super high expectations or want anything super fancy, and I'm really starting to panic and get frustrated about this. My mom's suggestion is to talk to the other ladies and get recommendations when we're up there for the shower later this month, but it's getting really late. I'm just stumped and stressed!

So, what little thing caused you the most headaches?

Re: What random small thing (that shouldn't be stressful) caused the most stress?

  • Invitations. We just used Vistaprint, so it was supposed to be easy peasy. H threw an absolute fit that I wanted to put "together with their families" on the invitation. My mother was being extremely difficult, so he wanted no mention of parents at all to get back at her. He was convinced I only wanted it because my mom wanted it. My mother had never said anything about it, I thought it would be a nice gesture for all of the parents.

    He got over it. He's not normally that mean, my mom was really just so difficult that he snapped.
  • The groomsmen! And their questions.

    Back story: My FI and I are the first of his friends to get married. He opperates on his own time. ( you text him at 10 AM you might get a reply by 3pm or two days later.) He is unorganized and is not a planner of any kind. He is oblivious to most of what is involved in planing a wedding, birthday party ect.
    His groomsmen are similar.

    They asked me what they were wearing and what they needed to do.
    I sent each an e-mail and text with instructions.
    Tux Shop Name, it's address with zip code, fax number and phone number. I also in that same e-mail and text said for them to get measured at any tux/ formelware shop, mens department store ect. This is free I added.
    I even attached a measurement card to each from my tux shop to the e-mail.

    Two of them still asked me more than twice how to get measured, where to go and if it cost anything.

    There were more questions later. I am done. I want to say call the tux shop if you have any questions because y'all just do not seem to read e-mails or texts or keep info.
  • Ugh. Everything.

    First it was what I was going to wear, but now I have that settled. Now it's just figuring out a honeymoon.
  • So far, it's gathering up addresses for invitations. WTF people. I have asked multiple times. Do you not know where you live? 
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  • Ugh. Everything. First it was what I was going to wear, but now I have that settled. Now it's just figuring out a honeymoon.
    This for me too.

    This whole wedding thing has just been a massive ordeal, and I knew it would be because my family is difficult, which is why I wanted to elope. FI really wants a "proper" wedding (his words, not mine) though, so I agreed. But of course, I'm the one doing all the work for it.
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  • Finding a cake person was difficult. In the town where we're getting married, we kept getting referred to the only wedding cake baker in town. She just happened to go out of business in January, though, so I had to find someone in the next town over (30 minutes away). We have a tasting appointment this weekend, so fingers crossed that it works out!

    My FI and I never argue; we're the talk everything out before it turns into an argument type.  But we did have a random argument about the color of my bridesmaids shoes. Apparently, he hates nude-colored shoes and felt like I wasn't taking his opinion seriously (I wasn't). We got over it. My bridesmaids are still wearing nude shoes.
  • 1) My caterer. We're having it at a country club where the chef for the club is the chef for the events. Perfect. Met with the event coordinator, tasted everything, told her what we wanted. She DOUBLED my budget (because she swears I said that was the number) and was surprised we wanted to drop the fish option because we insisted on it in our meeting. No, we never mentioned fish. In fact, we knew from the start we didn't want fish. Who did she meet with??

    2) Flower girl dress. My 10-year-old niece strongly wanted to be a flower girl, so we said okay. Only requirement is a silver, gray, or lavender dress that fits her. Don't care where she buys it, what it looks like, material, nothing. We shopped for 6 hours Sunday with no luck. Everything we like, she hates. She says she wants chiffon, then picks out a satin ballgown. She's ten. I can't blame her. But my god it's stressful.
  • I'm still 6 months out but I have been overly stressing about what jewelry I want to wear. 
  • I now have to begin address and putting together invititations, even this is too DIY for me.... hopefully with some wine I can get through it rather quickly.

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  • Finding invitations.  Oh my fucking lord, that was AWFUL.  NEVER AGAIN!!!  For which I am grateful.
  • My friend, who is a wedding planner, said that every bride tends to focus on one thing that kind of drives them crazy.  

    For me it was the Welcome Dinner.  I had a budget and I wanted it on the beach and I wasn't willing to budge.  I ended up finding the perfect place in the end because I stuck with it.


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  • Our wedding was last October but for me it was the groomsmens attire. I told my girls to get a black dress and we decided we were going to let the groomsmen just wear suits of their choosing as long as it was gray. Our initial plan was to give them a color swatch and just ask them to match it as close as possible. Well... apparently mens formal weart places don't give out swatches. I called about ten different places... no one would provide color swatches.

     

     

    So my fiance and his two best men came up with the idea that the three of them would go and purchase their suits at JOS Banks and the remaing three groomsmen could just go to JOS Banks and have the BMs suits pulled to match the color. (JOS Banks offered to hold the suits until everyone got theirs) Well...I told the two best men the only way this would work is if they got their suits by the second week in August because my little brother was a groomsmen and was leaving at the end of August for college 3 hours away and he needed to get his suit before he left because he wouldn't be back before the wedding.

     

    The two best men said this was not an issue...well come two weeks into August and I find out they haven't gone to get their suits yet. They waited until the last possible minute and my brother got his suit the day before he left for school. On top of a milllion other things had to do. I was so ticked off because  I specifically said if it was too difficult for them to get to JOS banks in that time frame we would work out something else.

     

    We were trying to make things as easy for the WP as possible when it came to attire but in this instance it caused more stress than it was worth

  • The labels for our favors. I kid you not, I spent an embarrassing amount of time stressing like a dumb ass over trying to find the same shade of coral for them that the ribbons were (we did tulle bags of chocolate rocks tied with coral ribbon and placed into little white metal buckets). I finally got a grip that nobody would notice or care, said fuck it, and ordered some that were pink. Strawberry, they were called. They were damn near a perfect match to my coral ribbon. Haha! 
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    Finding a wedding band to match my e-ring. I love my e-ring, but it looks really strange with 95% of the rings that I looked at. BUT- this past weekend, FI and I checked out another jeweler, and I found one that I LOVED, and they do conflict free diamonds, FI found not one, but TWO rings that he liked. AND they are BOGO free until the end of the month. Now I'm stressing that FI won't be able to decide between the two of them, so we'll miss the sweet deal. Luckily, since FI's family has done business with them forever, the guy said that he would give us some sort of break if we didn't decide before the end of the month. Edit: Because paragraphs are sooooo last year.
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