I was so happy when my brother's finance asked me to be in their wedding party (it will be just me and her maid of honor standing up), but now I've encountered a sticky situation that I would love to get outsiders' takes on:
She and the MOH picked out a dress. They live in a different city, but never asked about my body type or any preferences or problem areas I might have (I don't know her very well and we've only seen each other a couple of times), before they went shopping. A few days ago, she sent me a link to the dress, with instructions that I get measured by the end of the week. The problem is that the dress will probably be extremely unflattering on me. It relies on showing cleavage, which I don't really have (I'm basically a 34AA, though I wear 34A bras that are too big). I also am curvy on bottom, and the dress has an empire waist that will completely hide my best feature, which is a slim waist.
Her bridal shop has convinced her that the dress must be ordered right now (It's March...the wedding is in June). I'm not sure if I should:
a. Say nothing and suck it up.
b. Let her know I'm worried about "filling out the top" and ask if she wants me to try to try it on first.
Option B, could upset her and lead to a difficult task of finding an alternative, but I also wonder if there's a second place dress that she and her MOH found. If I went with Option A, I'd worry about truly looking ridiculous, to the point of the bride wishing I had spoken up when there was still time to adjust things. And, of course, I'd like to feel confident in front of this combination of strangers and my family.
What do you think?