No where near family to help

kelleywill

We just set our day for oct 5th or next fall and it hit me yesterday none of my family lives close to help me. My mom and dad live in Lousinia my grandparents live in Mississippi my sister who no question is going to be my maid of honor is in Virginia. My finaces family lives in North and south Carliona and Virginia. We live in missouri and iam freaking out already. We want it in Missouri because it will be easy on us and we can find a place we like to have it and not have to relay on somone else to. And we cant afford to fly somewhere and check things out for a few days. 

Has anyone ever delt with this? I know my mom and gandmas will help out in any way i want them too and my sister as well. But how can i pick out a dress with my family so far away. I dont think i can pick a dress with out my mom and sister. I know my mom will fly up here and help for a week or so so thats not a problem to much. We picked the date three days ago and i already feel like  I am going to be doing this alone. I know i have months and i dont have to do anything like right now but i at lest want to have things stright in my head. And i dont want to rush to do anything so with months i want to be able to do a few things here and there till christmas. Any suggestions or advice would be wonderful to calm my nerves.

GoodLuckBear14

My family is in Cincinnati, DH's family is in San Fancisco and we live in Philadelphia.  We planned our wedding on our own and I spent a lot of time here on TK.  Find a board on here that you are comfortable with (for me it was Wedding Party - and a few of the regs who helped me are back now).

For my dress, I made a point to go dress shopping with my mom in Cincinnati.  I had planned on just looking and then buying here where there is no sales tax on clothes but wound up getting the dress she picked out after three minutes at the first store.

w102nao

I am getting married in Ohio where my family lives and we live in San Francisco. 

I did tons of online research and then went home and found a dress, church, a reception hall, music and photographer all in one week.

My sister lives in Florida and the hardest part is coordinating flights, schedules and money to plan but it worked out. Take a deep breathe. My engagment was over a year but I was able to do the important stuff in a week or two.  I am going home two weeks before to do centerpieces, decorations and final stuff

Good luck it will be fine.

OliveOilsMom

Since you are not marrying until Oct 2013, you have plenty of time to do everything!  For your dress, where do you and your family usually spend holidays?  Perhaps you can arrange for your family to all be together for either Thanksgiving or Christmas.  Then you, your mom, & sister can all go dress shopping together.  Just go to that local board and ask for suggestions for dress shops. 

For other planning things, just lean on your FI.  He is the one that should help you plan everything.  Unless your parents offered to assist, then I keep them up to date on everything.

Also, you just picked the date for a wedding that is a year and a half away, just relax and take a deep breathe!  You will wear yourself out if you keep stressing out over your wedding plans this way!

divinemsbee

We live in TX, my mom lives in UT, her whole family is in one small town in MS, my Dad's family is all over MS, my dad and grandmother live in my hometown in MS, FI's parents and brother live in another town in MS and his family is out west, mainly in Idaho. Yeah, it has sucked to try to get everyone together.

We decided to get married in my hometown which is about 11 hours away by car. I thank God for the internet because it makes it so much easier to share ideas. I agree with the opinion that maybe the next time you're home or if your mom's with you make some bridal gown appointments. 

ElisabethJoanne

My family is like 15 miles from my home/where the wedding will be, and it wouldn't make tons of difference if they were 1,500 miles away. My mom and sister spent 1 afternoon dress-shopping with me. We traded photos/links by e-mail, and I went alone to place the order. My father went with me to a caterer's tasting when my fiance couldn't, but I could have handled it all alone. Too many opinions can be a problem sometimes.

kelleywill

Thanks everyone. I read all this and talked to my FI he calmed me down. I think i freaked out because of other stress besides the wedding. I'm going home for christmas i might try to do some stuff then. And talk my parents in makeing a trip up here in the spring or something. I was just thinking to much and stressing. I'm a very indesive person and i know iam going to have a hard time makeing desions. And i know my mom and sister will tell me the truth and not just say somethings good or nice when its not. Just going to need to let it all go till at lest december and just enjoy this. 

Kristin789

Your mom and sister will fly in for two weekends to do dress shopping (you'll go first to pick out five "finalists" to show them, etc.)
Your FI's parents will set up an RD weekend, where they will visit three RD venues, do tastings, and pick one and sign the contract including napkin colors and centerpieces, etc.
You will probably have people coming in town every third month over the whole year and a half you have before your wedding.

hoffse

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[QUOTE]Your mom and sister will fly in for two weekends to do dress shopping (you'll go first to pick out five "finalists" to show them, etc.) Your FI's parents will set up an RD weekend, where they will visit three RD venues, do tastings, and pick one and sign the contract including napkin colors and centerpieces, etc. You will probably have people coming in town every third month over the whole year and a half you have before your wedding.
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<div>I'm sorry but WTF.  That's the strangest thing I've ever heard.</div>