HELP! Unique invitation wording

Mrs.Harrell

I live in Hawaii.  My fiance and I decided since this was home to us we would be getting married here.  However, all of our friends and family live back on the mainland.  So in our invitation I am adding an enclosure.  It has two purposes 1- To give the ones who plan on attending our wedding website so they have links to additional information 2- For those who can not attend I am asking if they would like to send a broach that will be added into my bouqet so they can still be part of the celebration.  But I am completly STUCK!  I want the wording to be funny and lighthearted.  I seen a few of those poem type wording for the broach but I thought it might be odd since the rest of the invitation is not "rhymy"......  Any ideas?  I know this is something you would generally request for a shower but our situation is unique since I will not be having showers.

Jen4948

I'm sorry if this isn't what you want to hear, but...

Your situation is not "unique" (there are many people who live and get married far away from their family and friends for a number of reasons), not having a shower is not "unique" at all since many people don't and it's rude to host one for yourself, and I think that any wording to make this request just isn't likely to produce the results you want, whether or not it's funny and/or lighthearted (and in fact, I think "funny" or "lighthearted" requests won't be understood or appreciated the way you'd like). 

So this is something I would just not do.  Something every couple needs to accept is that there are going to be people who not only can't attend their weddings but also can't or won't be part of the celebration.  It's painful, yes.  But it should make things run more smoothly, if not more easily, for you if you do accept that it's just not possible to include everyone you'd like and go on with your plans otherwise.

singinchick13

It is unfortunate that there are so many of your friends that cannot be there with you. While I do think it is rude to ask for a gift or mention anything gift-related on your invitations, your wedding website may be a more appropriate place to mention this. Perhaps you can direct all invitees to your website and instead of requesting they send you this gift, you can let them know that it would mean a lot to you if your "something borrowed" would be a brooch from each dear friend who could not make it that day. These are things you can get from anywhere and they don't have to be expensive, so I think that having each person not coming let you "borrow" the brooch they send until you meet again would be a really lovely sentiment. Others may disagree with this, but how else do you get your "something borrowed" unless you ask for it? Not that it's not necessary, but it is something a lot of brides incorporate.

lookame3639

@singchick13 it depends on how you make your brooch bouquet if a brooch can actually be barrowed. A lot of techniques call for use of glue, floral wire, tape, ect. Plus the bouquet is going to go through a lot during the day and some brooches break while making the bouquet as well. It's just very helpful to let everyone know that you may be borrowing the brooch but it may not come back in the same condition they sent it in...basically don't send anything that has a super sentimental value.

lookame3639

I can't edit but I misspelled borrowed...it's spelled with two Os not an a lol

Fairyjen1

    It's against etiquette to ask for anything (except an RSVP!) in the invite. That said, I would LOVE to send a brooch to a loved one to use in their bouquet if I couldn't come. I have no answer on the best way to do this. Maybe word of mouth through other relatives?

tammym1001

singinchick13 said:

It is unfortunate that there are so many of your friends that cannot be there with you. While I do think it is rude to ask for a gift or mention anything gift-related on your invitations, your wedding website may be a more appropriate place to mention this. Perhaps you can direct all invitees to your website and instead of requesting they send you this gift, you can let them know that it would mean a lot to you if your "something borrowed" would be a brooch from each dear friend who could not make it that day. These are things you can get from anywhere and they don't have to be expensive, so I think that having each person not coming let you "borrow" the brooch they send until you meet again would be a really lovely sentiment. Others may disagree with this, but how else do you get your "something borrowed" unless you ask for it? Not that it's not necessary, but it is something a lot of brides incorporate.

I got my something borrowed by asking the person who had it. I asked her in person and I explained why it would mean a lot to me. 

I think it's ok to ask for brooches as your something borrowed, but not in the invitation. Since you're so far away I know you can't ask them in person so a phone call would be ok. I would be happy to do that for someone I cared about, but I probably wouldn't do it if it was asked in a generic, impersonal way on an invitation. Then I would just assume that everyone else was going to send them and I wouldn't put it at the top of my priority list.

CMGragain

Do not make this request in your invitation.  It would be rude to ask for contributions in the actual invitation.  You can use facebook or word of mouth.