If you are giving a check as a wedding gift, how are you supposed to address it? Does it really matter?
- Jane Doe
- Bob Smith
- Jane Doe or Bob Smith
- Jane Doe and Bob Smith
- Jane or Bob Smith
- Jane and Bob Smith
I know the bride better than the groom and she plans to change her name, but I don't know when.
I doubt the couple will care as this wedding is already kind of an etiquette disaster (b-listing, dictating dress codes, firing and replacing a bridesmaid, the bride hosting her own bachelorette parties, etc.) But I would like to do the right thing if I can (and not cause issues with their bank).
Re: Giving a check
I've had friends who have had trouble cashing the checks because they hadn't changed their names yet (or weren't going to and the assumed name was written on it) and because they didn't both sign the back of the checks. So putting only one name is better for the couple I think - it allows less trouble when trying to put in the bank or cash it.
As for the last name thing, I'd use the bride's maiden name unless you know for sure that she is going to change it. That way she can definitely sign it and deposit it no matter what. But that may just be my preference because I am not changing my name.
(And I'd be kind of annoyed is people wrote the checks just to my FI.)