Help with a problem

firefighterwife13

I'm having a problem, I want my bridesmaids to wear cowboy boots but the tuxs that the guys are renting come with nice dress shoes. The tuxs are black so do y'all think it would be ok for the girls to wear boots and guys wear dress shoes and if so do the girls have to get black boots because of the black tuxs? Anyone please help my wedding is in June and I got to figure this out ASAP thanks in advance.


Elizabeth

AddieCake

I think it looks horrible when girls wear cowboy boots with nice dresses, and I think it will look silly if you have the men in formal attire and the ladies in casual boots, yes. Besides, if you want them to wear cowboy boots, you need to buy them, so add that to your list of expenses. 

hyechica81

why cant the girls just wear what they want in terms of shoes.? i was going to wear white cowboy boots under my dress for my june wedding for my reception but then changed my mind because of being so hot. i am wearing 3 inch heals for ceremony and part of reception then changing into white flip flops for the rest of the night

if you want them to wear cowboy boots you have to supply them  if they dont have them and they can get expensive the most inxpensive pair is like 50$ from sheplers they come in black white pink and a blue color

firefighterwife13

I'm just asking people no reason in telling me it looks horrible. My wedding is country/firefighter but mostly country. My soon to be husband wanted the tuxs and that's pretty much all he has asked for so I gave it to him not really thinking how it would look. I don't have to buy the boots because all my girls already have boots. I have seen one picture of a bride in boots and groom in dress shoes and it was kinda cute I'm just wondering how everyone would look like that. I'm not really big into wearing nice dress shoes I'm a flip flop and boots kind of girl that's why I want boots and the dresses I picked out look great with them. So please people if u reply to this post please try and be nice and not tell me how stupid stuff is. If you have to then try to be nice about it all. Thank u

QueerFemme

Your girls in shoes designed for working on a farm in dresses and the guys in tuxedos and dress shoes is going to look ridiculous, in my opinion.

I'm not a fan of cowboy boots for a wedding, but if you want to do it, at least make the rest of the wedding very casual. And that includes the men's attire. They shouldn't be in tuxes at all.

QueerFemme

PS. If your FI is insistent on the tuxes, your girls should be in comparably formal attire, including their shoes. You run the risk of looking like you are going to two separate events.

chibiyui

firefighterwife13 said:

I'm having a problem, I want my bridesmaids to wear cowboy boots but the tuxs that the guys are renting come with nice dress shoes. The tuxs are black so do y'all think it would be ok for the girls to wear boots and guys wear dress shoes and if so do the girls have to get black boots because of the black tuxs? Anyone please help my wedding is in June and I got to figure this out ASAP thanks in advance. Elizabeth

firefighterwife13 said:

I'm just asking people no reason in telling me it looks horrible. My wedding is country/firefighter but mostly country. My soon to be husband wanted the tuxs and that's pretty much all he has asked for so I gave it to him not really thinking how it would look. I don't have to buy the boots because all my girls already have boots. I have seen one picture of a bride in boots and groom in dress shoes and it was kinda cute I'm just wondering how everyone would look like that. I'm not really big into wearing nice dress shoes I'm a flip flop and boots kind of girl that's why I want boots and the dresses I picked out look great with them. So please people if u reply to this post please try and be nice and not tell me how stupid stuff is. If you have to then try to be nice about it all. Thank u

I don't think it will look right having the girls in cowboy boots if the men are wearing tuxes.

The girls don't have to wear four inch stilettos, you can have them wear cute, comfy flats that will better match the groomsmen in formality and tone. (Or wedges! Wedges are fucking awesome!)

I would recommend asking the girls to wear their choice of black footwear if the men are wearing black tuxes.

hyechica81

maybe they could change into the boots for the reception after they are being introcude and after dinner so they feel more comfortable dancing but if you have tuxes and boots bad combo

CMGragain

Cowboy boots on bridesmaids looks as out of place as chucks did a few years ago.  It is sooooooo overdone.
You are asking if the girls need black boots to go with the men's black tuxedos?  Are you kidding?  Cowboy boots are out of place at a formal wedding!  I'm sorry if you don't like this, but it's the truth.  People will be laughing behind your back.
Put the girls in plain black pumps.

Dignity100

Cowboy boots are a somewhat current 'fad' right now - think of how your pictures are going to look in 10-20 years - sure they will be dated but do you want them to be classy dated or more of a 'why did I do that' like that of a blue/peach tuxedo in the 70's.

If you are dead set on having the cowboy boots, are you willing to purchase them for the girls that don't already own an 'approved' pair?

charlotteetier

@firefighterwife13 I will preface my response with two things:

- I do not like cowboy boots either

- You have to be prepared to receive responses you're not going to like on these boards.

Otherwise, I think you should just do an image search online to see bridesmaids with cowboy boots and determine how you like the look. I did and brown boots nice with kakhi and gray - so maybe you could keep the tux look and change the color? (As I didn't see anything that was black).

Lastly, if you [or one of your bridesmaids] own a pair of cowboy boots, which I believe you indicated you did, then why don't you take them, your bridesmaid dress, and head to your tux rental place to put everything next to each other - that'll give you a full view of what you'll be looking at. You could even put it with other tux colors.

Take some pictures and then discuss with your hubby to be!

**However: If you want these boots, and in a particular color that your bridal party members do not own, you do HAVE to buy them and this is an expensive item. So I'd bear that in mind no matter what.

Good Luck!

lovesclimbing

Girl who just wore cowboy boots in a wedding a couple months ago chiming in here.

My little sister wanted cowboy boots. I think they look ok with super casual dresses, but our dresses were not. Girls in casual dresses and cowboy boots will look very out of place next to guys in tuxes. And tuxes will not look good with cowboy boots.

If you want the cowboy boot look, go with something more casual for the men.

If you really want these cowboy boots, you need to pay for them. I paid for mine and I was not too happy. Cowboy boots are not my style. Decent cowboy boots (my sister wanted "real" ones rather than the cute, trendy ones) were over $100.  I have other shoes I would have much preferred to buy with that money that I would actually wear frequently and enjoy. I wish she would have let us wear a pair of heels we already own, or asked us to buy something neutral that could be worn again.

lkristenj

A friend of mine had her bridesmaids in purple cocktail dresses and brown cowboy boots they already owned. The guys wore black Wranglers jeans (even the groom), long sleeved white button-ups, and vests with black boots. The wedding was outdoors at a country gazebo that looked like a small chapel and the reception was in a nearby building with a barbeque buffet out on a covered wooden deck with space to dance. I personally am a country girl and I probably would have liked the boots thing and the burlap thing before they became big fads. I think it's fine to have girls wear cowboy boots, cute even, but I wouldn't dictate the exact pair unless you buy them. I also think it's important, as others have said, to have a consistent level of formality, which is why I gave that example. It all fit together, right down to the wildflower bouquets.