http://blog.theknot.com/2014/03/18/5-reasons-bridesmaids-drop-out-and-what-to-do-if-it-happens-to-you/?cm_mmc=facebook-_-march2014-_-blog-_-bridesmaidsdropoutofweddingsEspecially these gems...
1. She Can’t Afford It
We don’t need to tell you that wedding costs can add up fast. Between
buying her dress, planning your bachelorette, and other bridesmaid
duties, she sees her bank account plummeting.
What to do: If you really want her to be a bridesmaid, see if
there’s any way you could help her financially. Is there a cheaper dress
you can choose? Is there room in your budget to cover part of her
expenses? If not, work with her to figure out some cost-free ways for
her to be a part of your wedding, like making her the guest book
greeter.
2. She Can’t Make It To The Wedding Day
Maybe she’ll be eight months pregnant or maybe her job is sending her
on a mandatory business trip, but either way she won’t be standing next
to you when you say “I do.”
What to do: Just because she can’t be there on your
wedding day doesn’t mean she can’t be a part of this moment in your
life. Find ways to incorporate her into wedding prep, like making her
you go-to confidant when it comes to wedding venting.
3. She Doesn’t Like The Dress
When she accepted your bridesmaid proposal, there was definitely a
possibility that she would hate the dresses you picked out. It’s always
hard when someone questions your taste, but not liking a dress is no
reason for her to want to stay home on your wedding day.
What to do: Sit her down and tell her that she’ll
just be wearing it for 12 hours at most. Make sure you say that even if
she doesn’t love the dress, you do and that you’d be willing to wear a
paper bag on her wedding day if it made her happy (also mention that you
won’t have a problem with her untagging herself from the Facebook pics
after if she really doesn’t love how she looks in it).
WHAT the What?????