I've had one particular bridesmaid who has been an issue since day one.
She got pregnant shortly after we started planning and it took over
everything. She was about two months when we looked at dresses and I
asked if she wanted to come to see the options. Of course she didn't,
there was "no point". She later complained about the cost which I had
covered previously what all girls could afford and this was within her
limit. She told me with a second baby coming she couldn't afford it and I
told her not to worry about it I would take care of it. She fought me
on it a few months later and said she'd pay when she got her income
taxes back which I finally agreed to. Then she came out that she
couldn't justify paying that much for one day and wouldn't be able to
pay me. This was two weeks ago. I was frustrated but asked if she could
do payments, her boyfriend just posted $1500 worth of car parts on
Facebook for a project car he doesn't even have on the road. She agreed
to payment plans then complained about them and got short with me every
time I asked about them so I let it go. She came up with an excuse for
every hair and make up run through as to why she couldn't come and
flaked every craft day. All my craft days were 100% optional but after
three times of her saying no when I planned on having an extra pair of
hands I got frustrated. She has argued with me about every little thing
and has threatened to drop out numerous times but I gave her space and
she came back apologizing and decided to stay in. Now, I'll be honest
that I was immature and childish and quit talking to her for the last
two weeks. I didn't want to deal with the stress or drama and was being
totally selfish. But I don't have regrets because that was a much
smoother two weeks of my life than I've been experiencing. Anyways, we
have a Facebook group for the bridesmaids where I update them on things
so I don't have to send out a million texts or emails and can see all in
one spot who has responded and said what and who has yet to respond. I
noticed she was no longer in the group Sunday and asked her about it.
She told me she removed herself. So I asked if she was still in the
wedding and she said yes but she didn't know why because I wasn't
talking to her. I admit I did this but not once did she attempt to
contact me. It's a two way street. I told her if she didn't want to then
she shouldn't because it will put a damper on both of our days. Then
out of nowhere she tells me she will walk away if her three month old
cries. I told her that was fine for the reception but unacceptable to
step off stage during the ceremony and asked if a relative could watch
the baby for the half hour ceremony. She said that her child only wants
her and she would step away. When I said that was not acceptable she
told me "I guess I can't be in it then" which I thanked her for telling
me and we haven't talked since. Thank God I had a close friend who just
moved back to town offer to take her place and DB has express shipping
fir a new dress. But am I being unreasonable? I understand your kid is
your kid but walking off the stage in the middle of "I do"?! Am I being a
crazy bridezilla or is this the way I should be acting?
