Advice on invitation wording traditional versus non-traditional

Wedqueen12

I've been working on the wording of the wedding invitations but need some advice when it comes to wording them. As of right now my invitation is worded this way: 

The pleasure of your company is requested at the marriage of 

Bride's full name

To

Groom's full name 

on

Saturday, June twenty-eighth two thousand fourteen at half past three in the afternoon.

My question is whether or not to stick with this wording or change it to reflect the traditional wedding invitation which

 usually starts out with the bride's parents inviting guests to the wedding. I like how we have them worded but am concerned that other people who are more traditional will be offended by the wording the way they are now. Opinions please.

STARMOON44

I would wonder what the deal is with not including your parents. Also an invitation is from someone. Yours isn't. How about "together with their families , bride and groom request the pleasure of your company at their marriage on date "

pinkshorts27

STARMOON44 said:

I would wonder what the deal is with not including your parents. Also an invitation is from someone. Yours isn't. How about "together with their families , bride and groom request the pleasure of your company at their marriage on date "

Actually, I think that is right. If the bride/groom are hosting the invite is in third person. 

@CMGragain ?

@OP, I wouldn't think twice. I would just think that you and the groom were hosting. It would not be offensive to guests and if your parents aren't hosting I believe that is correct wording, but I'm not the expert. I have paged her though. 

emmyg65

I think this is correct, etiquette-wise. But grammar-wise, I can't stand the passive voice. So I would say:

Bride Full Name

and

Groom Full Name

request the pleasure of your company at their marriage

etc., etc.

You only include your parents' names if they are hosting or helping host. Also, if those are your actual names, please change them in your post.

theartistformerlyknownas

emmyg65 said: I think this is correct, etiquette-wise. But grammar-wise, I can't stand the passive voice. So I would say:
Bride Full NameandGroom Full Namerequest the pleasure of your company at their marriageetc., etc.
You only include your parents' names if they are hosting or helping host. Also, if those are your actual names, please change them in your post.
I agree with this. There's nothing wrong with hosting your own wedding, but someone has to be "requesting the pleasure of your company," it can't just be requested by a piece of paper, ykwim? So put the request after your names. 

And some will tell you it's "half after three" although I personally don't think that matters a hill of beans.  

tammym1001

Our invitations were worded exactly the way that yours are. FI and I are hosting our own wedding so there was no reason to put our parents on there. Wedding invitations are meant to be in the third person when the bride and groom are hosting so what you have is correct. 

CMGragain

The pleasure of your company is requested
at the marriage of 

Nicole Rae Smith

and

Keith Alan Buck 
Saturday, the twenty-eighth of June
two thousand fourteen
at half after three o'clock
Venue
Address
City, State

Unless you are having a church wedding, this is the traditional wording for a wedding the bride and groom are hosting, themselves.  Parents are only on the invitation if they are hosting the wedding.

CMGragain

STARMOON44 said:

I would wonder what the deal is with not including your parents. Also an invitation is from someone. Yours isn't. How about "together with their families , bride and groom request the pleasure of your company at their marriage on date "

The invitation is a simple note from the hosts to the guests, telling them who, what, when, and where.  It does not "include" anyone.  It is not an honor to be named on an invitation!  When the bride and groom host their own wedding, the invitation iis phrased indirectly, without naming them as hosts.  "Together with their families" is not traditional at all.

Jen4948

STARMOON44 said:

I would wonder what the deal is with not including your parents. Also an invitation is from someone. Yours isn't. How about "together with their families , bride and groom request the pleasure of your company at their marriage on date "

When hosting your own wedding, the correct wording is to phrase the invitation as "hostless."  It should be understood that the couple are doing the hosting.

Wedqueen12

This is very true but my fiance doesn't have very many people who are family. I'm just sticking to the wording I have there are more important things to worry about.

Wedqueen12

Thanks Tammymmym1001 When's your big day?

Jen4948

Wedqueen12 said:

This is very true but my fiance doesn't have very many people who are family. I'm just sticking to the wording I have there are more important things to worry about.

Then why did you post here asking for help if you don't want our advice?  We don't appreciate having our time wasted.

photokitty

Jen4948 said:

Wedqueen12 said:

This is very true but my fiance doesn't have very many people who are family. I'm just sticking to the wording I have there are more important things to worry about.

Then why did you post here asking for help if you don't want our advice?  We don't appreciate having our time wasted.

I took her statement as she is sticking with it after PPs told her they would not find it offensive and that she doesn't want to mention family as they are not hosting or possibly present. I don't think she meant it to sound like she didn't care what advice was offered.

tammym1001

Wedqueen12 said:

Thanks Tammymmym1001 When's your big day?

It's May 17. Invites are going out this week so my wording was fresh in my mind when I read this I did a lot of research before I printed my invites because I made them myself and I wanted to make sure I had it right. I think that wording is simple and conveys all the information that anyone would need, which is really the point of an invitation.

Wedqueen12

I wasn't trying to offend anyone! There names have been changed.